Please help me Welcome FenceSitter!!

by Sassy 36 Replies latest jw friends

  • Nosferatu
    Nosferatu

    Hello, and welcome Fencesitter! Just read your biography. It's difficult to make drastic changes in one's life, especially after they've been doing the same thing for decades. There are many people here who left the "truth" at your age, and even later. It might be difficult to start over again, but it's not impossible.

    I have lost the central concept of my life: spirituality.

    I guess you could say you're starting fresh with a blank slate. Your life isn't over yet, and it won't be over for a while. Armageddon isn't coming anytime soon, so you have some time to develope a new life for yourself!

    I have put my life into the hands of Jehovah seeking a physical complement

    I put my life into Jehovah's hands when I was getting bullied at school. Jehovah did piss all for me, and my self-esteem sank even lower. I prayed constantly for help, but I got none. I had to work hard to get my self-esteem back up. It was a lot of work, but I'm quite happy with myself now.

    What you've done by leaving the "truth" is opened up a whole new world for yourself. You now have every single woman in the world to choose from. You no longer have to worry about her being a JW. She can be Agnostic, Catholic, Baptist, etc etc. It doesn't matter anymore! There's a lot of single women out there, all you have to do is find them. The best part is any woman you end up with isn't going to love Jehovah's shitty Organization more than you!

    Now my parents are dead and I have no past except what haunts me. And I feel I have no future. I feel really bad.

    It's difficult when you realize how much time you wasted on a big lie. I'll tell you something, you don't have a future anymore. It was to be filled with field service, going to meetings, Armageddon, and Paradise Erf. All that was put into your future by someone else. Now that you've left, you've wiped it clean. You have a blank future that you can fill up with your own goals! If you've never been on a date with a woman, well, make that a goal! If you've never been intimate with a woman, make that a goal too! Make plans to take up dancing, singing, playing an instrument, martial arts, basically anything that interests you. This is now YOUR future, not the Watchtower Society's.

    Fencesitter, there are a lot of positives about your situation, you just have to look for them. You no longer have to attend meetings 3 times a week. You no longer have to worry about getting your hours in. You no longer have to worry about what the elders think. You've just had a lot of stress removed from your life. You've opened a door for yourself, and you can do ANYTHING you want!

    I wish you well on your new adventure through life.

  • Bryan
    Bryan

    {{{{{ FenceSitter }}}}}

    Welcome!!!!

    I read your bio. I'm sorry for all your pain. You can rest assured, most all here have been through simular pains, and can empathize with you. I hope you have just started your journey out and you have not felt this pain for too long. Just remember, time heals all wounds. And it does!

    Welcome and I hope to hear from you here in the group.

    bryan

  • FenceSitter
    FenceSitter

    Wow... It's like being in the Hall everyone coming to me with greetings. First, I must say I am very low right now. It is a very big effort to reach out and I am in such deep trouble that I do not know how long I can be amongst you. I am very demoralized and my typing probably reflects it. I must have clicked the wrong symbol as I am a man. Well, I am male anyway. A man should not be in the position I find myself in. I can only imagine what my writing must read like. I don't have my dyslexia under the best control at the moment.

    So, thank you very much, one-and-all for the welcome. I really need some friends and my options (being in Catholic Poland, JW assoc., being destitute and illegal in this country, etc..) are limited. I could really use a hug. The God of Fatherless Boys seems to be away from the office and with an indefinite return.

    Let me correct my profile symbol. And check my profile for spelling and coherence. But first thank you very much.

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  • DevonMcBride
    DevonMcBride
    Wow... It's like being in the Hall everyone coming to me with greetings.

    The one big difference here is that we don't have any ulterior motives or agendas. You are unconditionally welcome here.

    Devon

  • imallgrowedup
    imallgrowedup

    Welcome to our community, FenceSitter!!! It's nice to have you in the neighborhood!!!

    growedup

  • Gopher
    Gopher

    Welcome FenceSitter. Your profile looks fine, and nothing is wrong with your spelling!!

    I too left (actually was DF'd) at the age of 39. I was feeling lost for a few months before I started reading www.freeminds.org and this website, and also the book "Crisis of Conscience" by former Governing Body member Raymond Franz.

    Those things helped me see that I made the right choice not to go back to JW's, because like all other religions, they're just filled with ideas of men cloaked as "God's words".

    I hope you gain encouragement from this site that you are not alone, and that choosing freedom over serving a group of men is not a bad choice at all.

    As a member of the JW collective, your individuality was trampled down. It'll take a while for the real "you" to come out. Give yourself time, you'll find that you like yourself and that others will too. And the attention and/or love you receive on the outside will not be conditional based on how spiritual you appear to be. Rather it'll be because of who you are.

    Best wishes on your journey. I hope that your stay on this website helps you in the journey.

    Jeff (a.k.a. Gopher)

  • stillajwexelder
    stillajwexelder

    A big mid-western welcome Fencesitter

  • FreeFallin
    FreeFallin

    WELCOME....FenceSitter!!!

    FreeFallin

  • Elsewhere
    Elsewhere

    I must have clicked the wrong symbol as I am a man
    Damn... I was hoping you were a naught girl who likes to sit on fence posts.

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