(((Thank you, everyone))) Your kind words and hugs and love are very important to me. Sassy, what you said might be true. She did know about my husband's upcoming surgery. My brother told me the reason she gave him for not contacting her three daughters: "I didn't want to worry them". Perhaps this is true, but she still has two other daughters to consider. I am the oldest.
I have continued to write her cards and letters, and have not heard back from her since last summer in writing. She used to send me a loving card periodically. She called me in early March to let me know she had moved and that her health had taken a real dive.
Well, the only thing I can do is the best that I can do. I have to keep my resolve to "let it be". This is what she wants. It would truly be heartbreaking for her to go into surgery and not survive, without having spoken to all her children. The rules as she sees them through JW eyes, will not allow her to express her love for her own flesh. But, something inside her must want this too, or else she would resist and question.
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