I Am Beginning To Despise This "Cult" (page 2)

Odrade

I know what you're saying Min, that feeling of intolerance bleeds over into every aspect of the JW life. We had an incident with my mom this weekend. Kind of obliquely affected us, but definitely hurt other non-jw family members. My aunt is in town and wanted to go to Seattle to visit her parents and take them out for their birthday dinner. She was going to hop a flight, then Pater and I were going to bring her back from Seattle on Sunday on the way home from Doodle's party.

My mom, being the "all about me" person that she is (which is really more of a personality flaw than a J-dub thing) changed everything around and decided to rent a car and drive aunt to Seattle, stay till Sunday and bring her back after the dinner. The point is, she KNEW the dinner was a birthday dinner, and agreed to be the transportation for my aunt. So... Saturday morning rolls around and we just can't get it together to get out the door to the party. So I call my dad (who stayed home) and asked if the plan was still that mom was staying till Sunday so aunt could have birthday with her parents. "yes, she's staying the whole time, no problem."

Well, my mom is notoriously fickle and an opportunist, so I wanted to make sure that everything was fine and if we stayed home, my aunt wouldn't get her arrangements messed up, so I called my mom. She said, "we're on our way home right now" (Saturday morning.) So, not only did my aunt have to forgo the birthday dinner, but she also was forced to miss the entire birthday DAY. And I told my mom, "It sure makes everything difficult for everyone when you won't make up your mind and commit to anything till the very last second." She said in a very nasty voice, "Well, it works fine for me!"

I was so pissed. How inconsiderate can a person be? I KNOW what happened is she just decided she didn't want to be around for any traces of birthday stuff, so she made EVERYONE give up their plans and wrecked the whole thing. Yes, I know this is as much her personality as the JWs, but I really believe that being a JW teaches you to be intolerant and disrespectful of everyone's traditions and plans. After all, your whole entire existence revolved around the WTS demands and standards, so their lives become very one dimensional. They couldn't care less whose feelings they hurt and what relationships they ruin by "keeping their conscience clear."

Grrrrr. I'm right there with you Min. I despise this cult.

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Odrade

LOL @ Farkel. no kidding, that's why all the pioneers eat at Wendy's for lunch every day. $1 jr bacon cheeseburger. Cheaper than their morning coffee.

little witch

Odrade,

I disagree. (LOL that I am disageeing with your relationship to someone you know better than I)

But honestly from an outside view, your mother's actions are obviously controlled by her addiction to jwism and not her personality.

Where after all did she get the insane idea that a celebration of a persons being is evil or pagan?

If you value a persons being, just celebrating the presence of this person, by having a cake and saying "I love you" is made to be evil and wicked, then I question the opposition rather than the celebrators.

I don't believe any reasonable person would come up with such an odd belief. This is strictly from the warped minds of the tower. What mother or any other family member would view a celebration of such honor as wicked? Only the unique and lame theology of the wtbts. An admitted corporation.

Since when does big business dictate to family moral and ethical behavior?

ZazuWitts

LOL, with Farkel on the 'cheap bastards.' When our kids married all the JW relatives refused to come to their weddings, tho all were held in outdoor settings with secular 'officials' performing the ceremonies. A point that we clearly made them aware of, But it was noted they also didn't even send any gifts...cheap, cheap, cheap is right on. They didn't have a problem accepting our generous gifts for their own weddings...hypocrites that they are.

Odrade

Well, I agree to a point, LW, the JW thing definitely has a large role in this event, but it's a personality thing too, because my mom routinely does this kind of thing, whether or not there are JW issues involved. It's just that she feels justified if there are JW things at stake.

But, it's kind of validating to hear someone else say they think the conduct DOES correlate with JW behavior. Mostly when I mention this sort of behavior, people say "well that doesn't sound like the religion, it sounds like it's just HER." Which I think it is to an extent, but in normal life a middle-aged woman would have learned some consideration for other people's lives and plans by now.

okay, now I'm fuming again. If they "drop by" in service this morning I'm having a little talk with her about it.

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little witch

(((Odrade)))))

Sure is aggrevaiting isn't it? Anyways, partypoopers all of them.

Gawd forbid we should value the life of a loved one. Gawd forbid we should somehow show some love to family without the GB to dictate the details.

Xena

Hey Mic, welcome to the forum

My sisters treat me the same way..... just not going to the meeting is enough for them to throw away the fact we are family...sucks huh?

Regarding your wife; my family blamed my ex for me leaving the org and his family blamed me, no one likes to think someone would leave of their own accord. It just blows their minds!

little witch

"A disaster of this magnitude must be somebody's fault)!

I agree Xena. Such is the way it is with the borg. It is the old us vs. them argument.

If you see past this fallacy, you are...let me suggest a raunchy and wicked enough label to rally the fold, "apostate".

heathen

YEP that's what you're dealing with , petty , self righteous , indignant. You would think they would at least consider it an opportune time to do some witnessing but nooooooooo we gotta condemn the whole lot of ya, there is no unconditional love .

minimus

Hey, if this keeps up, I might turn out to be just like Farkel!

I Am Beginning To Despise This "Cult"

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