People in the "world" commit adultry and well things somehow get handled. They either get a divorce or reconcile and usually need some marriage therapy or the adulter keeps it to themself and remains in the marriage..At any rate, it is a family problem, not really the conern of the elders IMHO. Jws make the problems worse. If there is adultry, the marriage is in trouble If the elders are really shepherds, then they should start right there. Find out what is wrong with the marriage and help them.
I know a couple that was both DF for leaving their mates and marrying. Some 20 years later, they are still remembered for it . . What a hateful bunch of people the elders and cong are. I've seen people get less jail time for murder.. I agree with the poster that said, either u DF and shun or u do not. I don't think we should decide which sins are worse. I may be wrong, but i do not recall sins being graded in the bible. The important factor should be the persons attitude. If "cut to the heart" as they say, then why DF them anyway? What is the point? And circumstances do vary, as mentioned, the other mate may have actually contributed or even promoted the adultry. It has happened. Really, the cong should stay out of the bedroom in all cases. It is a family matter, or time to see a divorce lawyer.
About the couple mentioned by M, common sense should have told the couple to go somewhere else.Elders are only human, if people are really hateful and arrogant, u tend to hate them .
About the stinky family- yes the elders have the right to not allow offensive people in the KH. don't need a ruling form above on that.
I know a couple where adultry was involved and rearrriage of them both and NO reproof, was given. Just brings new spouse to hall, like nothing ever happened. U can't make this shite up.