Nat,
Just how long have you known this fellow...? And how involved are you emotionally at this point...? Would you be able to walk away at this point...? Because that is my advice to you. If you are a woman who likes her independence, how willing would you be to just give all your personal power and decision-making over to your husband...? How long have you known this fellow ...? I ask again...? Because he is asking you to change, by wanting you to study and "become" a jw. Why does he want you to change...? And into what...? A robot...? A submissive wife...? Why does he want you to change...? What's wrong with you the way you are...? Seriously ... would these be healthy changes?
Don't kid yourself, Nat. You will be doing all the changing and he will find no end of things to change about you ... and you will never be quite good enough. That is the bottom line with the jws. It is a religion of high control and fear. You will learn to fear your husband and fear god. Your husband might as well be god, because when he speaks and makes the final decision, that is the end of the matter.
Some of the new house rules:
- Have to give up all your friends and your girls' nights out
- Have to give up all your relatives who aren't jw
- Have to give up all those fun holidays
- Have to turn all your possessions over to your husband, since he is head of the house
RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ESTEE