This is the story of a really great young man and his father that didn't make it to the front cover of the Awake! magazine. However, their story belongs in this op!
I had a very good jw friend, who was also my golfing buddy as well. Our families were close. We shared vacations, boating, snow skiing, sports, dining, and many other good times. They had 4 children and we had 4 children also. His oldest son and my second son were best friends. My friend was a 'good brother' in the eyes of the congregation and came from a well established jw family. Sadly, his oldest son fell ill and after about 6 years of battling, he died from a blood disease in 1998 at the age of 19. He had been treated at several medical facilities during that time. The only known treatment, and one that has had tremendous success, for his disease was a blood transfusion, which he,as a 19 year old adult, refused.
My friend was never the same guy after his son died which I'm pretty sure is not that unusual. Often, for years afterword, he became very emotional around me especially when he saw my son or we talked about the 'good old days'.
One day, in November 2007, we were drinking cocktails and enjoying a football game on TV when he brought up the blood issue. At the time I was an elder. (My friend, though never and elder or ms, was a born-in jw.) He asked me, that since the wtbts had changed their stance on blood fractions AFTER his son died, did I think that the wtbts would ever allow blood transfusions?
I said, "No, I don't think that will ever change". (I really wondered what I'd do if I ever had to face losing a child)
He then asked "Why are blood fractions ok now?" (remember, it's 2007)
I said, "I don't know why there has been a change in the policy."
He said, "Blood fractions could have saved H------------(his son's) life."
I tried to ease his mind by telling him that there are no sure cures and then repeated the company line, "We need to wait on jehovah".
A couple of months later, my friend, a 'good brother', shot himself in the head and died.