I wonder if their are any parents of theses children on here now .May 22 1994
I know it could be a sensitive subject however we were all once firm believers and could have very well let one of our loved ones die due to what we once believed.
And not to be Judgemental on what we would have done or did do in the past ,I sometime wonder if any of the parents or even one parent of the children of the May 22nd 1994 magazine of "Youths Who Put God First " have now regretted their decision to let their children make this decision on their own.
After all these years I find it hard to believe that not one of them have no regrets to what happened to their child.
I can also accept that it would be extremely hard to admit that you allowed your child to make a decision to die on a belief you instilled in them that you no longer now believe in
I think that would be very hard to live with and come to terms with.
If any of you are here my heart goes out to you because you have gone through hell and my thoughts/vibes are with you.
I think this could be a major reason such parents would stay in. To leave and accept the fact that you'd let a child die because you were following the interpretation of scripture of a bumbling idiot in New York who you've never even met would drive one to major depression or even worse.
One Jonestown survivor reckoned that Jim Jones ordered the children to drink the cool aid first because after you've seen your child die in your arms what are you gonna want to do even if you dont believe it?
Waking up after refusing a lifesaving blood transfusion for your child doesn't best thinking about. Possibly better to die in ignorance than discover TATT. :(
Not blood, But I do have a confession to make, I've never put my life story on the boards for this reason.My first son from my first marriage, well, his father kidnapped him, took him from me, because of my determination to go back to" the truth".
I found him( in another country) years later but my son never wanted to come back ( I was still indoctrinated at that stage, too). So effectively my son became motherless because of my stupidity, and as his father was a bully and an alcoholic ( I went from an abusive religion to an abusive husband and back to the abusive religion) I subjected MY son to that, too. I have a lot to answer for.
Edited to say,: his father was raised Catholic, went to an elite Christian Brothers school ( Jesuits), where a lot and I mean A LOT of abuse took place. Consequently my husband hated organized religion. He happens to be right on that point.
The Christian Brothers have since apologized for the treatment of their charges, some of whom are famous and brought it all to public notice. Google it if you're interested.
The sad thing to remember about all the deaths which add up to the thousands now is this occurred out the self endeavoring delusions of a couple men exercising their almighty righteous power and control over people who got psychologically entrapped by the fear mongering corrupt but alluring teachings of the same associated men who ran the Watchtower Corporation.
I've often wondered about this subject -- there must be ex-JWs who are in emotional torment for having allowed this crackpot religion to influence them. Thousands and thousands of needless deaths -- sad, indeed. Even present day JWs who know fractions are now allowed must stay in deep denial or need to be heavily medicated. Many alcoholics inside the religion -- what a pathetic mess.
Its terrible. Flawed doctrine and callous disregard for life. Makes me sad so many still die.
I am not one of those parents, but I could easily have been. My youngest son was born in 1982 by an emergency caesarean. He was immediately whisked away to the pediatric intensive care unit. The doctor who headed that unit approached my husband and me and informed us that unless we agreed to let our son have a blood transfusion, he would not live the day out. Then we were threatened with a court order. Both my husband and I refused the transfusion on religious grounds. The court order never came about thanks to my sympathetic obstetrician. Long story short, he lived and thrived. For years this cemented my faith that the Jehovah's Witnesses were right. But now I look back in horror at how I was willing to let my son die for this religion.
During the last 5 years of my JW life i never agreed with children carrying blood cards. I mean, unless they're baptized they're not even Jehovah's Witnesses so why be under the same rule?
This is the story of a really great young man and his father that didn't make it to the front cover of the Awake! magazine. However, their story belongs in this op!
I had a very good jw friend, who was also my golfing buddy as well. Our families were close. We shared vacations, boating, snow skiing, sports, dining, and many other good times. They had 4 children and we had 4 children also. His oldest son and my second son were best friends. My friend was a 'good brother' in the eyes of the congregation and came from a well established jw family. Sadly, his oldest son fell ill and after about 6 years of battling, he died from a blood disease in 1998 at the age of 19. He had been treated at several medical facilities during that time. The only known treatment, and one that has had tremendous success, for his disease was a blood transfusion, which he,as a 19 year old adult, refused.
My friend was never the same guy after his son died which I'm pretty sure is not that unusual. Often, for years afterword, he became very emotional around me especially when he saw my son or we talked about the 'good old days'.
One day, in November 2007, we were drinking cocktails and enjoying a football game on TV when he brought up the blood issue. At the time I was an elder. (My friend, though never and elder or ms, was a born-in jw.) He asked me, that since the wtbts had changed their stance on blood fractions AFTER his son died, did I think that the wtbts would ever allow blood transfusions?
I said, "No, I don't think that will ever change". (I really wondered what I'd do if I ever had to face losing a child)
He then asked "Why are blood fractions ok now?" (remember, it's 2007)
I said, "I don't know why there has been a change in the policy."
He said, "Blood fractions could have saved H------------(his son's) life."
I tried to ease his mind by telling him that there are no sure cures and then repeated the company line, "We need to wait on jehovah".
A couple of months later, my friend, a 'good brother', shot himself in the head and died.