Hi Isambard Crater, if/when you decide to fade, consider these options for dealing with 'inquisitive' elders and other JW's :
"Thank you for your concerns, but I have private & personal
issues which I can't discuss with anyone at the moment - except in
prayer to JEHOVAH - but I certainly appreciate your motives and
concern. If things change, I will call you."
Elders' Conversation Stoppers:
"We only want to come and give you encouragement."
Simply repeat the response above - especially the phrase, "private & personal"!
"But how can we help you if you won't talk to us?"
has private & personal situations which they can't discuss with
others, and I'm sure that includes the elders - I'm no different!"
"Are you refusing to talk with us?"
"No, I just don't want to discuss things right now. I'll call you if things change."
The elders can't punish someone who chooses not to discuss personal issues, so never prolong an interrogation - just say 'thanks' and walk away.