Why so few XJWs online?
I think as was mentioned, some of those who were DF are still in pain regardless of how long ago it was. Posting about those feelings means reliving them. One of my close family members is that way.
I know many who have left that were never baptized. They were raised in the "truth" or around it and that in itself has seriously damaged them. They don't want to talk or think about it. This must apply even more so those who were officially disfellowshipped.
Another reason, as was also brought up are those who have been DF, yet are going back. I personally know some of them don't have any disagreement with the WT organization. Unfortunately, they feel they have sinned and accept the judicial committees decision. They sit meekly in the back row until they are reinstated. These wouldn't be participating or even looking at ex-jw sites online, as they don't consider themselves as such. Maybe someday, they will see the TTATT and find support groups such as this. At that point it could be a lifesaver for them as it has been for me. I'm one who really needs to express my feelings, have them validated by others (like on this forum) who have gone through this and come out to live happier lives.
What scratchme1010 said:
People move on and good for them that they do. When I first left the religion I was on this website every day for six months. Then I stopped visiting and starting living. I moved out of state and no one bothered me and my family. I have since moved back and I have been pestered by JWs which brought me back to this site. Many of the same people are here posting , so I'm assuming that this has become a hobby. I can think of worse hobbies. But I'm willing to bet most people are like me and get what they need from this site and then move on with life. I hope I can do the same a second time.
Reading the comments on this thread, I do realize now that there are actually more people then we can think online viewing and interacting online.
Some are too damaged, some still believe and others are just x-xJWs. Whatever the reasons, as long as people are happy and are able to live with love... its all that matters.
I just want to say for the records though that I hold no judgement or contempt for people who do no sort of activism. Everyone do what they can with the best they have. Its just that somehow... from a group as loud and preachy as the JWs, I would have thought that the xJWs were louder. Still, that is also one of the reasons people are leaving the JWs... they are pushing their beliefs on others as if they have the ultimate truth to it all!
Although I've given my feelings on it already, I just thought I'd speak to the dichotomy that is my wife and I. Although we left together, my wife was just done, while I spent time here and other places reading and challenging what I held dear for so many years. It wasn't just enough for me to say I was done, I wanted to put everything that I ever believed in to the test, and have bookmarked so many things here that were points I had never thought of. I still listen to JW Podcast and others, though I've never been heavy into videos. My wife, although she's interested to hear things if I want to share, never did anything. She left them, and just dropped the whole thing like a bad habit.
We've been out for just over a year since we disassociated. I'm still in the game and honestly some days I wish I could be like my wife and just drop it. She can't even remember some of the beliefs, though when we were in she struggled with some of that. She'd write a talk and read it to me and I'd have to correct her and tell her that you can't say this or that on the platform as that's not what we believe, lol. So I guess it makes sense to some degree why she left so easily and for me it was more of an exercise. Still, to just walk away almost like it never happened sounds so peaceful at times. Then again, when a chance to help someone comes up, she's not able to articulate beliefs and work with them as well as I can. Different strokes for different folks.
I haven't read the comments, but I wondering why anyone thinks they can assemble the true stats on this. How many people view this board without signing in or posting? Quite a few. How many discussion boards are there with ex-jws? New ones all the time. I don't believe it is possible to count how many jws are online or ex-jws. I was online for 3 years before I left. And here I am 19 years later, less prolific, but still reading.
I have discovered some on FB that used to be here; still communicating with ex-jws but in a different way.
How can you know how many people at the KH or who have just left still read up on the WTS?
I think there are more than any of us think.
Blondie: You're right... I came to understand this through the comments and some further reflection. :)
(1) Leaving the Witnesses is a process and not something that happens overnight. Even people who have stopped attending meetings or were disfellowshipped may still consider themselves a Jehovah's Witness.
(2) Some ex-JWs are so disgusted with them that they don't any reminder of that part of their past lives. I go through stages of this myself, which is why my participation here is sporadic.
(3) Ex-JWs like ourselves are independent souls. Following the crowd for so long makes me want to march to the beat of my own drum even more. I have watched a video or two of Kim and Mike. It's not my thing. Kudos to them for speaking out, but I'm not subscribed either. I am pretty picky about how I spend my time on the computer nowadays.
(4) Even if there were 1 million ex-Jws posting online, that is just a drop in the bucket. There are over 3 billion internet users in the world. Even if you were to break it down to only English speaking countries, that won't make much of a dent. Source: how many internet users are there in the world
Most people have better things to do with their lives than being bitter and hoping to get affirmation for it online.
The 'silent majority' of dissatisfied JWs keeps growing and growing...that's what's important...and the 2017 JW Yearbook stats confirms that to be the case!
I can't wait to see the 2018 JW Yearbook totals!:) :)