It's natural to enjoy having a continuation of our childhood and adolescence into adulthood. It's just odd to have life as we know it cut off and a new life started. People change careers and relationships but to change everything can be shattering. Congratulations on your family and new group of friends.
Even those of us who leave a bad marriage may find ourselves at different times missing aspects of what we then had. It doesn’t mean we should have stayed or tried even harder. It is normal and natural to have a range of different emotions over past situations. Our past in JW land is no different.
I had a moment like that on New Year's Eve, too. Those kind of moments are deeply personal and meaningful, look how far you've come, look at who you are now. That's something to be proud of. You should be proud of yourself.
willudfme. No apology needed.
you are not rambling, expressing your heart is not rambling. welcome aboard see pm.
I recall dropping by on some of the photos they might show and it was the same. Pictures of this group or that all wt stuff nevr doing anything else. In my earliest 'in' days it struck me as so narrow a focus.
Well said, zeb. That's the life they offer you: their literature, read up they say, and dream about paradise when paradise is right outside your door, spread out to the sky. You're not rambling, WilluDFme: you're getting real with us. Don't stop.
I have a lot of empathy for you.
I realized a couple of days ago, that as a 4th Generation JW, I grieve the life I left behind - I grieve all the negative things that happened to me, and I grieve losing all the good things - for me, it was not all good or bad. In this last year, I've just started to fully see the damage done by being a JW. At the same time, there is a lot I miss about my family ...
It's very complicated.
Be gentle with yourself, and proud of your progress.
I can contribute to everyone above, it’s tough as heck!
Sometimes I find myself crying at night because I miss not having a family (was born in) and the fact that I have to rebuild my life from scratch which is difficult too.
Welcome leeny ,it takes time to come to grips with what you are learning about the Organization and its leaders and absorbing all of this new information .
Their is no hurry Armageddon or the Great tribulation are not coming anytime soon.
Chill out smell the roses and take time to re-educate yourself about Cult religions ,if you havent read Don Cameron`s Book available on line I highly recommend it .
I have those same moments looking back on old photos, particularly of family that mostly are still in. However, over time more and more have also left. I have a circle of close friends who were close as JWs and even closer as exJWs.
How do any of you make friends?
I find it hard to find anything to bond over.
Conversations about family and my past are hard to have.
No one can really understand.
I work from home, so its hard to meet people, I have kids that need lots of time, I live month to month because I didnt plan for the future (of course), and I am loosing my wife who I helped find out the TATT.
Life seems bleak.