Are single sisters happier?

by Esmeralda001 50 Replies latest jw experiences

  • Zana
    Nowhere. But do you think a civil marriage can be called a marriage "according to God's law"?
  • Divergent
    The Bible is silent on this. So the best thing to do is to follow 1 Corinthians 4:6 - DO NOT GO BEYOND the things that are written
  • Diogenesister

    Kaik that is one of the most heartbreaking stories I have heard, do you think she realized the religon was a sham? Or perhaps she had been diagnosed with something noone knew about?

    Perhaps she developed some kind of late onset psychosis. Bloody awful, poor kid

  • TheWonderofYou
    Kaik, that sister who eventually died, do you know any family members of her?
  • SecretSlaveClass

    When my brother joined the Roodekrans Bethel he ended up marrying a pioneer he barely knew beyond seeing here at a few meetings and written correspondence. Two years later he returned home early (he was no longer at Bethel by this time) from work to find her in bed with another sister she was pioneer partners with. It devastated him and to add insult to injury, she was the one who divorced HIM while he tried to reconcile the relationship.

    I had a good laugh at that. Immature I know, but I was 15 and hated his goody JW guts. At 46 I still have a good chuckle ... Yes I'm still immature and hate his zombie guts.

  • truthlover

    Your non wine--tness parents would be allowed at your wedding,th e more witness they can give to a worldly person. wow! and here they are in the hall- they cant leave so have to sit through the ceremony - the jw you would marry could have association with those parents-- just attended a memorial for a young gal who was living with a guy, a non witness, yet her mom had studied, and the talk was given by an elder to a packed crowd of worldlies - about 200.... they received a sermon about 20 minutes in length....

    so wherever you are living, some things have changed depending on the elders

    and yes, I am single and loving it - keep busy otherwise

  • truthlover

    NON witness parents, that should be

  • PaintedToeNail

    Esmeralda-It almost seems like you are going out of your way to be unhappy for the rest of your life. You were in a very happy relationship with a man, yet choose to end it instead of seeing it through. You are afraid of being trapped in a marriage that will require unquestioning submission to a man. That unquestioning submission is a requirement of Jehovah-Witnesses. The same people you are trying to 'join'. The JW's don't approve of your continuing your education either. You don't want your parents to be disrespected, yet any beliefs they hold that are in conflict with JW doctrine will cause disrespect by others in the congregation. To JW's your parents will always be blind, led by Satan and his demons and under their influence no matter how wonderful they are.

    Just why are you studying and trying to join people who disapprove of education, your parents and wish for you to go against natural feelings of being able to hold an opinion different from a man and that the opinion may be valuable? Also remember, the Governing Body will also require your unquestioning obedience to WHATEVER they decree now and in the future. The penalty for non-compliance is disfellowshipping-this after they have separated you from all your family and friends (boyfriend too) to ensure your loneliness....

  • KateWild

    Being a single sister JW is very different from being married in WT. Both has it's negatives as the WT is very misogynistic.

    I choose now that I am divorced to date non JW men until I meet someone I love again. I have a boyfriend right now and it's great to know someone cares and they are there for you.

    Kate xx

  • tiki

    I was single for far too long and was completely excluded from any social life in the cong I was treated like I was the plague and it hurt very badly. You try to be your best...but there is no life and if all the male single dubs are moronic jerks...which seems to be the norm are doomed. Thankfully my now hubby came semi into the org and we did marry...but he was his own man and never fell for all the rhetoric.

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