Im kind of working off Outlaws post here
It seems to me that a lot of us Witnesses think in absolutes about character. You are either
a potential JW
or a lost soul.
So when we leave, we view ourselves as lost souls sometimes. Then we start to act that way.
Actions always follow thought.
As others have said above, find yourself, anchor your identity. Define what you want to be about.
Lose the concept that only Witnesses really have it going on.
When you do that?
You will meet the most incredible people. In fact, you will become one.