You start as a couple who no longer wanted to be involved with the JW's. There will be no arguing with her parents, other family still in and those wonderful long term friendships that were conditional.
To get some clarity......... suppose your wife needed an immediate blood transfusion to save her life. Maybe a car accident or some other life threatening situation.......god forbid. Your doctors spell it out for you that they can't operate without blood as she has lost a lot.
Those same parents rush to the hospital and what happens when they see that you have both agreed to a blood transfusion. You'd get the same reaction.
Count your blessing....life comes first. The good news is you didn't have to find out that your in laws are idiots caught up in the grip of the ignorant WTBTS.
Let's talk about something more pleasant. As soon as the dust has settled and the silence of absent JW friends is loud and clear........ it's time to start with a few changes. First off, as mentioned, you and the wife need to be a team. You are going to gain 20 to 30 hours each a week........as you stop all jw activities. You could easily start a business with that time, go back to school if need be. It's all out there for you.
But you are going to need to meet people. How? Some join a different religion just for the community. Probably the last thing you need at this point.
But now that you have become 'worldly' people you need to start thinking what you can contribute to make this world a little better.
So my advice is to look into becoming a volunteer for something worth while. I have done volunteer work for some twenty years. You meet the very best people when you meet with other volunteers. In every community there are volunteer groups. Heck that's what I am doing on this forum....lending a helping hand. You can do it here as well as spending time with people who share an interest, It's pretty much the same as being a member of a congregation......volunteers meet on a regular basis, everyone is committed to do good work....these are responsible people where a friendship can grow organically.
It usually starts with 'hey let's grab a cup of coffee and continue our discussion'.
That's the world for you........ plenty of good responsible people in it.