(((((Big Tex)))))
Nina
This is really stupid ... BUT
by Big Tex 44 Replies latest jw friends
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onacruse
<------waits for Nina to step aside so I can give BT a ...
perhaps you'd prefer a bearhug?
Craig
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outnfree
I am SO sorry you are stressing over your doctor appointment. I LOVE my primary care doctors (husband and wife team). My doctors saved my husband's life. I don't think I've told the story before here, so I shall, just to bring out the positive:
My husband had a stye(sp?) in his eye. He went to the doctor on a Friday after it got so bad (he also dislikes going to the doctor) that he was having trouble seeing out of the eye. The doctor, who hadn't seen him in a while, decided to take a complete history. My husband happened to mention that he sometimes got winded while walking across the auto plant to his 6:30 AM meeting. Also that he had a cough that wouldn't go away. Dr. R. gave him a EKG right in the office. Didn't like what he saw. Recommended a cardiologist and made an appt for my husband to go see him on Monday. The cardiologist, Dr. G, gave my husband a stress test, didn't like the results and wanted him to have a heart cathetertization the next morning. He wanted hubby to stay overnight in the hospital pre-test. Hubby -- who also hates hospitals, convinces Dr. G that he will NOT return to work, will go home and rest, and thus does not have to stay overnight in the hospital. Tues. AM, hubby has the catheterization and four arteries are blocked at 75% or more. I am informed hubby needs open heart surgery and is to be transferred to a larger hospital nearby with an excellent cardiology dept. Because of 9-11, hubby's surgery doesn't take place until 9-13, but FIVE arteries were blocked as it turned out. He was a ticking time bomb waiting for a massive heart attack with no symptoms other than the cough and breathlessness.
Thanks to our diligent family physician, my husband is alive today and my kids are not fatherless.
It is clear that you, Big Tex, love your wife and kids dearly. Ten years is too long to go without a physical. I am glad that you are steeling yourself to tend to yourself. You deserve good medical care. If you decide you don't like this physician, find one you do like. Once you develop a good relationship with your doctor, your doctor can recommend specialists (when needed) who will mesh with your personality, thus making you more comfortable then as well.
Good luck, BigTex, and I hope all is well with you.
outnfree
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rem
I hadn't gone to the doctor in a few years... I hate hospitals and doctor's offices too. I was pleasantly surprised about how cool my new doctor is. I got a full checkup and everything checked out fine. I think that if you are uncomfortable with your doctor you should probably find another one.
rem
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Big Tex
perhaps you'd prefer a bearhug?
Or a manly chuck on the shoulder. Manly men doing manly things in a manly fashion.
outnfree -- Wow, it's a good thing he went on in. You're right, it probably did save his life. No I'm not worried too much about that. I'm not on the best diet in the world, no fault of Nina's, and I'm about 20-25 lbs overweight so anything is possible. I just hate, down to my cells, doctors. Nothing personal, it's just I hate being treated like a number. I've seen far too many medical people who have a canned pre-packaged diagnosis, always wrong, and couldn't give a tinker's dam about me. I've promised myself if this new guy is a bully or his staff starts to bully me, I'm outta there.
Anyway, thanks everyone. Things always seem bigger at midnight for some reason.
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waiting
Doctors in general, I don't mind. Dentists & gynocologists? I tend to wait until Serious Pain.
Being a woman, I can get away with telling them: "If you hurt me, I will scream loud enough that your other patients will hear me." That helps.
Another is to be quite blunt about my past, my feelings, and my panic attacks. My present dentist is great. It costs a tidy bit to be put to sleep for everything but a cleaning.....but it's the only way I can sit in that chair with my mouth open and a person above me. Believe me, I've tried to overcome it. I also lived my childhood in a dentist chair with much pain.
I haven't seen ob/gyn for about 12 yrs. Scheduled appt for next month. Shall start my own support thread then, eh?
And tell him/her to be gentle. I wouldn't advise wearing that there kilt either, big boy.
Take care & a deep breath.
waiting
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Billygoat
(((((((((((((Chris))))))))))))))))
Be honest with them about how long it's been and why. Usually, they will take a little more time for the "occasion". I've got a great Doc for my "female" stuff. LOVE him. (I guess I shouldn't sound too excited about that, huh?!?! LOL!) But I guess I like him because he has a good sense of humor and seems to really care that I'm there. Anytime I have questions, I never feel rushed out the door. And best thing? He LISTENS. If you feel rushed, uncomfortable, or not listened to, don't feel like you have to complete things with him. Let him know what your expectations are. I think Docs respect that. If he doesn't - get a new one. No point wasting uncomfortable times with someone you don't like.
Andi
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SheilaM
(((((((BigTex))))))))))))))))))))))
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jst2laws
Big Tex,
But yes, this is the big one, where he will no doubt enjoy spelunking and checking my tonsils from the back end.
You seem nervous about this. Are you afraid of the prostate examination. Are you afraid you are going to hate it. Dont worry about that. You have something of much more serious concern to worry about.
WHAT IF YOU ENJOY IT.
Jst2laws
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Big Tex
Dentists & gynocologists? I tend to wait until Serious Pain.
Well yeah! I should think so. I can't blame you a bit. Okay, you want to hear something funny? When I was a kid, about 13, my parents were janitors (they were being good little JWs) and one of the offices they cleaned was an OB/GYN. I can remember looking at the examining table and trying to figure it out. I knew what it was for and I knew what was being examined, but I couldn't figure out the exact mechanics. So I thought about it and I thought this was the only way it could work.
The table was for the doctor. He had to lie on his back while the woman stood up in the stirrups (I mean what else would they be for?) and she would brace herself by holding on to the ceiling tiles. Made perfect sense to me. Now wouldn't that be less traumatic? I thought that until I was 21 and I went with my wife.
Anyway, it went well. The doc was okay and the little problem I was worried about turned out to be nothing. However one of my T waves on the EKG was going down instead of up, so I have to take a stress test in a couple of weeks.
Anyway, thanks everyone for being so nice during my little panic tantrum.
Chris