Lol at the preemptive ego strike by Rabbi Midge. Come on, you're the one that got defensive and ran away because we read your words and had concerns based on them. THAT is ego. So then you go on a preemptive strike trying to dissuade further questioning by trying to label questions as egoic? Unless people are kissing your rear and asking questions about Jewish culture and faith you don't seem to like questions. I don't care about Jews as much in this instance as I care about this girl, as do others, and we can only go off the words that you post. If they give the wrong impression, that's not our fault nor our ego. You seem to have come here expecting a certain reaction and when you didn't get it you got upset and ran away. Ego tries to control reactions of others.
If you are really against shunning as you state, shouldn't you applaud someone who is bravely standing up against it? She is fighting to keep it from happening at all. It may not happen that way, but would you rather her just take it?
Yes, everyone should threaten people that are about to shun them with what sound like threats of violence or pain (if you know what's good for you). By doing so you labeled her as the voice of power and strength. Again, that's all stuff that you wrote. I'm not reading in or making up. I applaud someone taking a stand against the idea of shunning, I even do a podcast on that very subject matter and help people to tell their stories, but I don't applaud what sound like physical threats as strength. If you want to talk ego, that sounds egoic. Do what I want you to do if you know what's good for you is about control, and ego is about control.
I just went back and read your posts on previous threads. You get mad when we go by your own words about this situation, about how impulsive it all seems for this girl to just up and leave her faith to explore another, but it's not like you went on to say much about her in those other threads. So what we have to comment on is what you've given us. You painted this picture, not us. You've given us a ton about Jewish culture and beliefs, but you haven't given us much about her (back to the feeling of proselytizing), and in the other threads you were called out as condescending, which you seem to be fine with. You absolutely reek of ego because we don't dance when you want us to and not only in this thread, which seems to frustrate you considerably to the point of leaving.
So hold your future lectures on ego until you check your own. We all have one and it can get the best of any of us, myself included.
If you're happy where you are, that's great. If this young lady is truly happy, that's great too. I know you won't read this or reply, but wherever you are, have a good life. That's all any of us can wish for anyone.