Discussion, Debate, and just plain Dissing Off

by onacruse 60 Replies latest members adult

  • StinkyPantz
    StinkyPantz

    Plmkrzy-

    Your words would be true if the person made the simple statement that "Genesis is accurate" and then left it at that. But if the person proceeds to 1) Tell you you're going to hell if you don't believe or 2) Those of you that don't agree are wrong. Then they need to "put up or shut up".

    Some people don't just make a statement about how they feel. They sometimes make a negative judgement about those that don't believe as they do. It is these people that my statement was directed towards. If a person said, "I just don't understand how you could believe that Genesis is wrong" and then you show them proof, they should do the same, or shut up about it. By making this statement they must have some sort of incite or proof that they should share.

    Besides that, on a public discussion board, you should be willing to defend your statements.

  • plmkrzy
    plmkrzy
    It depends. If they feel sad or happy that's fine. If they feel that Genesis is accurate, no.

    They need to back it up.

    So what your saying is my statement is true.

  • AlanF
    AlanF

    Oxnard said:

    ::: No, not a challenge to your disbelief, but a challenge as to how you can act so nonchalant about death.

    :: Same thing. Do you want me to explain why?

    : How is it the same?

    Now we're getting somewhere. Most of the time when people make statements like yours about being nonchalant about death, or about pretty much anything else, they mean to imply that the one they're questioning is somehow deficient for being nonchalant. They imply that the one being questioned does not really have a good basis for being nonchalant, and so is rather stupid. That is certainly a challenge to a person's disbelief.

    : Okay, I can accept the fact you are an atheist.

    You haven't been listening. I'm not an atheist. I'm an agnostic.

    : You've done the research, believe it is valid, and therefore accept it and adjust your beliefs to what they are now. Okay, that I understand.

    Right. But remember that I claim that my beliefs are based on plenty of researched facts, and that I can present reams of information about most things on which I hold a definite opinion. I can present a link to a website, if you want to do a lot of reading. Most importantly, I can argue for my positions and support the arguments with lots of source references.

    : But that doesn't explain a carefee attitude toward something many people take very seriously.

    See, this kind of language is highly prejudicial, and illustrates how your statements contain strong and judgmental implications -- even if you're not overtly aware of it.

    How do you know my attitude about death is carefree? In fact, it's far from carefree. It's just that I've accepted death as a natural part of life, and that I can do nothing whatsoever about it. People have been dying ever since they came into existence, just as their animal ancestors have and as everything today dies. So my attitude is one of calm acceptance of the inevitable.

    Conversely, the concept of a resurrection goes against everything I know about logic and the world. I believe the notion in Genesis is true -- "dust you are, and to dust you will return". Therefore there is no such thing as a disembodied soul, spirit or whatever you want to call it, that animates people. Before you came into existence, there was nothing of you, and after you die and your body decomposes, there is again nothing. Of course, this is very JW-like, but no one has yet given me any evidence to the contrary. I don't believe this because of Genesis, but because of much other evidence. Thus, a resurrection would have to involve God's making a clone, and then he would have to 'download' a personality and memories into the clone. But the clone would not be you. Now, if God exists, he knows this perfectly well, and so for someone to state in the Bible or any other religious book that there will be a resurrection implies that God is a moron or a liar. None of it makes sense; thus the proper conclusion is that no such thing as a resurrection exists.

    : Just because the evidence points toward something to be true doesn't mean it's going to lead to peace and security.

    So what? The desire for peace and security does not create things like "the resurrection". That desire creates nothing of substance at all.

    : See, I'm not questioning your belief, I'm curious about your attitude toward one issue.

    Well I hope you understand it better now.

    : I mean, I could be an atheist and fear death, right?

    Of couse, and many do. But what does that have to do with the price of pork bellies?

    AlanF

  • StinkyPantz
    StinkyPantz

    Plmkrzy-

    I concede. My original statement shouldn't have been so vague .

  • Jayson
    Jayson
    The mistake I think we sometimes make is attacking the person instead of countering the ideas they put forth and may come out with things like:
    • You are dumb
    • You have dumb ideas
    • How could you be so dumb to believe that

    etc ... Instead of

    • I don't agree
    • I think that idea is dumb
    • I think you are mistaken to believe that

    I like that.

  • onacruse
    onacruse

    Thanks for your comments. I was in a bit of a mood last night (couldn't tell, couldya? LOL) A few remarks of my own:

    kgfree:

    It depends, I guess on the overall purpose of the board. Is it more to help people in that state come all the way out of the organization and into a more healthy mental state? Or is it more a community of people who share a common trauma and who are now living their lives as best they can?

    Why not both? Getting out is a necessary step toward mental health, but having something/someone to get out "to" is also part of the healing process; a means to an end. And that end is, imo, to do just as you say: live our lives as best we can. That's why I'm genuinely happy when someone posts a "goodbye thread" and moves on...good for them! But that intermediate step of acceptance and understanding from others is crucial; if that first tentative outreach results in a bloodied nose...well, it should come as no surprise if that person turns back to living a pathetic life in the org.

    min, you've started more than a couple of threads along this same line of thought, and I've especially liked that about you; you sensitivity to the person. I frequently have to revise my posts so that it's clear that my hatred is toward the organization's sociopathic policies...not against the unfortunate people who find themselves struggling to escape its grip.

    freedom:

    I will respect their viewpoints much more if they present themselves with dignity.

    Funny how that works, eh? They might be way out in left field, but if they offer their opinion in a dignified way, the tendency is to credit them with thoughtfulness. otoh, someone who has the facts nailed tight, but comes off as an arrogant twit...well, I tend to just zip right on past (and, perhaps, miss out on something very salient).

    Alan, you rightly point out the obvious exception to my "kid's-glove" idea: If someone (perhaps a not-so-newbie-newbie) comes right out of the gate and virtually asks for a confrontation, well then, they've asked for it, and they better be ready to take it. Also, you make a good observation about the difference between private and public conversation. I hadn't thought of that. And I suspect that many people new to an Internet forum are like me; I had no idea what to expect, but I thought there'd be at least a reasonable degree of civility and a modicum of self-restraint. Well, now that I've been around for a little while, and checked out some other boards...LOL, yet another delusion bites the dust

    Simon, I think I'd rather dance on broken glass than have your task here. This forum is pretty darn good

    And now, I'm pooped out...I'll be back a little later.

    Thanks again for your comments,

    Craig

  • Mr. Kim
    Mr. Kim

    Onacruse,

    Good points.......by the way, the Hulk was alright......I think I would have had the Hulk crash through the Watchtower building....now that would of been cool...........

    KIM

  • Simon
    Simon

    One other point I'd like to make:

    Everyone is free to have an opinion and to express it. If they want to express it without getting into a debate or 'backing up' what they have said then it is up to them. Of course, they should not expect to post an opinion (especially on controversial topics) and not have people disagree with them.

    If people want a forum where everyone is of almost identical mindset (and there are many like that) then it would be a very boring place indeed. I think we learn a lot by discussing things with other of differing viewpoints.

  • onacruse
    onacruse

    Just a couple more thoughts before I turn in:

    SP:

    I am known around here for my hot headedness.

    rem:

    I often wonder why I come accross so harsh in my posts. I don't mean to, but I just seem to get caught up in the moment. Probably because I've debated with many posters who can dish it out and take it.

    You both draw up a very good point here. Passionate expression can often be misinterpreted as personal attack. Of course, I never succumb to such emotional caprice. LOL

    Ox, your first 3 days here have been a daunting initiation. I'm glad you've stuck with it...this forum has sooooo much to offer, and your participation only helps make it even better.

    ((Cassi)) It's a real pleasure to see you back on your feet. You have a heart of gold...which must be where MaxF got his plating materials.

    Craig

  • dedalus
    dedalus

    Ox answered ...

    I'm not knocking research. I'm just not as interested in it as some people here. But then again, I've noticed that faith is a four letter word for some people.

    ... and ignored the rest of my post, meanwhile switching topics to complain about "faith." I realize he's dealing with many posters at once, but this is still frustrating.

    Regarding faith being a four-letter word, he also seems to have missed my comments about that: http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/12/54277/787120/post.ashx#787120 Perhaps Ox's gibe about faith wasn't directed against me personally, but I dislike the tacit assumption that atheists have no respect for the word and what it means. Actually, I think atheists probably have more respect for faith, recognizing more clearly the ways it is misused to justify beliefs in things that are absurd, even morally reprehensible.

    Dedalus

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