What strange counsel did YOU GIVE to others?

by Funchback 23 Replies latest jw experiences

  • Funchback


    So in another thread, most of us have been counseled for some lame stuff, and the responses range from funny to shocking.

    Now, let's focus on YOU giving counsel to others. Come on, don't be shy!

    I'll begin:

    • I had (have...He's not a JW anymore, either) a friend. He and his wife saw an R-rated movie. I asked him why it was rated R. He said it had offensive language. So, I said, "Then, why did you watch the whole thing? Shouldn't you have been offended?" (Meanwhile, I used to watch porn...lol. Such a hypocrite was I).
    • There was this kid named Mark. He was a teen. He wasn't baptized and he was into alternative rock and he sported kind of a grunge look. I counseled him about his "terrible" lifestyle.

    Man, I was such a brain-dead JW drone!

  • Rainbow_Troll

    I had several Bible studies in elementary school. I can't recall giving out any specific advice, but I often worry that, even though I didn't manage to convert anyone, I may have planted some seeds of faith in my studies. I did criticize the theory of evolution a lot but, thank Darwin, no one cared to listen to me.

  • compound complex
    compound complex

    Being a grammar Nazi and dictionary freak, I encouraged those in the audience to use more colorful speech in their talks and ministry. Specifically, I recall suggesting they use the word ferruginous instead of red (well, actually, reddish-brown). There were other gems peppered throughout my talks. Was I going beyond the things written? This was 50 years ago!

    Our USA Midwest congregation was a little group of dear but not highly educated folk.

    What a dork I was. Good thing I never had to advise married couples . . . Now that I think about it, I did. Several are now divorced.

  • Funchback
    What a dork I was. Good thing I never had to advise married couples . . . Now that I think about it, I did. Several are now divorced.

    That may have been the funniest thing I have read all day!

  • ttdtt

    Very very sad to say - to shun DFed relatives in talks I gave.

    I am so embarrassed and mortified I did that.

  • Funchback


    You didn't know any better at the time.

  • John Free
    John Free

    Shamefully, I counselled a congregation that taking the morning after pill was akin to murder. Because, contrary to medical science and without foundation in scripture the washtowel believes that a fertilised egg is a life. It was in the outline so I stated it without fact checking.

  • Tech49

    I remember one time as a School Overseer, I had this pretty young lady of about 21 give a talk. She was wearing a moderately short skirt, and so it wanted to ride up the entire time she was seated, so she was constantly pulling on it. I took her in the back room, with another brother, and gave her kind but firm counsel on keeping in mind that her skirt was at eye level when she was on the stage, and you know..... blah blah blah.

    Poor thing was so embarrassed, I got embarrassed with her and for her! I really did feel bad, but I meant well at the time, and not in a creepy perv kind of way.... As I recall, we didnt see her much after that, I dont know if it had much to do with my "counsel" or not, but I do still remember that and sincerely wish I could apologize for my nitpicking.

    Erin, I'm sorry, please forgive me.......

  • tepidpoultry

    I was the one that would show up at (always sisters) houses to comfort the bereaved NO HUGS!! and provide encouragement and support otherwise, I always thought it best to mostly listen, tended to keep me out of trouble counselwise, the one thing that stands out about counsel was with my son, he wanted to see Jurassic Park and I prevented him, I did it because I didn't want to look bad with the prissy congregation who would give me trouble, I didn't want to stand up to them, it was a bad call and I regret it to this day,

  • HereIgo

    I can't say that I have counseled anyone, but when I was an MS, reaching out, I encouraged plenty of young teenage brothers to reach out and climb the ladder and leave all worldly things alone. Now look at me lol But hey, I didn't know any better.

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