Good Afternoon All
Hello. In the last 5/6 years, I've read many threads, some made me laugh , others sad such is life , but was a very pleasant experience. So I though it was time to introduce myself a bit.
Im Portuguese although living in the U.K. atm. Im from a (now) jw family and I have 2 sisters. I was 5 when, in that Saturday afternoon I heard someone talking to my mother at the door , far from imagining what was coming down the road.
My parents had limited education coming from a interior small rural village so it was easy for them to buy the "message". So I started going to meetings with my mother and eventually she became baptised. I myself had been baptised by the church only, after birth. My father followed her too and eventually I too became familiar with the religion itself in those infinite indoctrination series. Smiling, i still remember that "luminous" day , age 7 ,when my mother asked me to put some water in the plants with a water disperser and suddenly a small rainbow appeared in front of me. It hit me like a lightning bolt. Ive seen this before , in the yellow childrens book which refers the rainbow as a sign or promess.
It was the start for me , that eventually lead to ligh refraction information later on. Sooooo I though to myself this isn't what it looks like... Ive started to read read read, and the more ive read the more confident I was that something was very wrong. It was , as most here know well, very hard to digest all of this by myself all those years that I planned my escape. Without talking to no one. Alone. Too bad internet wasn't there. So my parents are in and of course they start to be pressurised to get me baptised too. I had parents study , congregation leaders study,etc . Stalled them all. Always. Would be there, etc , but in the questions part I was like , well ,idk instead of reading the underlined lines.
Going against them was bad idea of course as once a commentary on human history I made based on evolution theories once proved.(ok I cant say theyre wrong , got it ^^) Eventually they start to annoy you by the girlfriend thing , or world friends thing or "advising" your mother that the running competitions at school are bad or basically telling you what to do. As they saw I was being too independent thinking ofc my parents were pulled aside and given instructions. So the corporation rules became now my parents rules as they said "As long as you live with us , you WILL do as we say".
Well , that dint go well, but at least I knew what to do. Had to go meetings ,door to door , but all the time I though to myself "its a matter of time , hand in there" and looking back its sad when a children dream involves leaving family behind. I loved my family back then as of today, all of them. Always playing nice to all in the congregation , always friendly as I am usually anyways.
To this day all talk to me and respect me I think , if we happened to cross ways, because I NEVER baptised as I quickly realised I could be baptised and live a lie or leave home and have a "door" open with my family, but harder both. I have work to do i though to myself. One day, I marked a date mentally, it was a sunday. I got a job.I made friends at work.I was 17 , nearly adult age and the sunday was near. Time to prepare. I didn't want my parents harassed by this Corporation, so I go for the highest I can reach in charge. In the Saturday meeting I asked the at the time congregation president and bethel special envoy as well as my personal study monitor at that time to pop in next morning. No turning back now ,and off to bed to the longest night of my life.
He came in , I asked my parents to go in the living room and sat them all in the table. Told them although i think i believe in a energy source in the universe I dint want to follow this religion anymore as I dint believed the bible was the word of God ,and surely the Governing Body was NOT God channel due to the amount of errors in the past. Ive done my homework in all those years and arguments / counter arguments were made.
In that moment I saw. I saw what they can do to a informed decision. NOTHING. ABSOLUTLEY NOTHING
My mother cried , a bit arguing , but my case was water tight. "This is MY decision although my parents tried otherwise" I said with courage trembling inside at all times. "If I have to leave this house im prepared to do it tomorrow as I have a pre-rented flat already , but I would prefer not to as I love all of you"
Ive stayed with my family as I wasn't baptised , they had nothing to use against me anymore.(the corporation, my parents although disappointed in that moment ,always loved me) On top ppl in the congregation were fond of me so they didn't even tried. Although my family to this day are jw, we talk a lot about stuff religion related in which I try not to say they're wrong but advice them to inform themselves instead, bcz ppl believe what they choose to believe, not the truth unfortunately.
This is my Religious Liberation process, and hopefully will give strength to one in need one day.
To Simon (I think is the right name) tks for providing a place where people can freely express themselves and help others so they wont ever be alone to fight off these dangerous cancers of our society.
To others in same situation I was , Hang in There , don't despair ,let reason be your weapon , time is on OUR side.
Thank you and Good Luck to All
Welcome! Excellent first post. So glad that your family has not shunned you.
Wish you the very best.
So happy for you truly! So awesome to have analyzed so much and researched a lot. You saw the key to not get baptized. I assume your father is not an elder or ministerial servant? I expect there is quite a trend of parents who have grown children not baptized, or not active any longer, that are struggling, but still secretly have contact with their grown inactive children.
So many best wishes to you!!
Thank you for sharing this side of your life. It is very interesting how you set the agenda that you had a prerented flat to go to if your parents kicked you out. What an emotional and trying time that day must have been for all. So happy for you that it has all worked out.
Best regards to you.
PS Those 2 links didn't work for me (just my computer?)
Thank you for the share...very inspiring!
If only all kids were so smart and brave..and all parents so loving and non judgemental.
I know you will go far..& be there for your parents when they need you, which they will. I am glad that you could see the limited education of your parents was the contributing factor to their acceptance of the JW's, education, reason and knowledge is THE best defence against cult - ism.
Welcome to the rest of your life!
The "real life"!
Thank you for the replies.
Although I don't consider myself smart or brave , ironically the one thing that always made me sad (really sad) when singing back then in the kingdom halls , that they've changed , was one of the things I think has motivated ME for doing those changes . A song that was like - truth should be your possession ( or purpose). the irony lol.
Each person has they motivations to awake , I guess. Just don't forget them for they are the key
Reading info on complicated issues is not easy at first ,sometimes we think like were going crazy , its ok lol , its just our brain jump starting, once it starts running we look back and were like : How could I not see THAT ? ^^
Im sorry for the typos I just realized were quite a few , and the links are just incorrect spelling im guessing.
"They may find it difficult , those who have taken authority as the truth rather than the truth as the authority" , now I AMEN to that ^^
Hello Kick and Welcome to the forum!!!
Thank you for sharing with us your experiences. Yes, it is tough when family are involved - but it looks like you have worked out a lot of things for yourself. Hope you stay around here Kick50r!
Olá Kick50r bem vindo ao fórum.