How do you deal with people who do not like you?

by usualusername1 35 Replies latest jw friends

  • hybridous
    When I find someone dosent like me i curl up into a ball and cry tears of frustration and shame. I rock back and forth and convulse uncontrollably until dehydration finally makes my tears cease and hunger forces me to drag myself out of my darkened room to forage for sustance. I spend months rebuilding my self esteem and hope and pray that noone else hurts my precious feelings until i can recover.

    Yes. We can totally tell that's how it is with you.

  • sparrowdown

    You must spend a lot of time in feotal position then morpheous.

    Just kidding, just kidding don't hate me. Lol.

  • steve2

    It is risky to curl up in a fetal position when you are on a slippery slope.

  • LV101

    _Morph -- hilarious! Humor us -- what do you really do?

  • mentalclarity

    If someone seems not to like me I just figure I'm not their cup of tea. We all have people we mesh well with and others we don't. I just move on to someone that i can connect well with.

    However, I would say if you find that many people are having an adverse reaction to you and it's not just isolated incidents, maybe you should take a look at that and see if you are inadvertently doing/saying things to have that type of reaction. Sometimes we carry behaviors that we're unaware of that push people away. If you're really brave and are ok with some constructive criticism you could always ask directly if you've done something to warrant that reaction in them. You might gain some insight, but again it really depends on context.

    I don't know about blocking people- personally, I find that whole "you're dead to me" approach very reminiscent of JWs. Unless there was some sort of abuse or it was very detrimental to my well being, I'd just ignore them and not do anything at all. Sometimes having any type of reaction to something just gives it more power. Just my two cents...

  • RubaDub

    Here in many States in the US, we can get concealed gun carry permits.

    Let. the person know that you are carrying a 9mm Glock. The person's attitude will change right away.

    Rub a Dub

  • EverApostate

    Just ignore them.

    If it happens to bump into them, be polite and send them the message that their hating does not affect your life and there is a whole lot of people who love and care for you.

  • compound complex
    compound complex

    "They don't like you, they don't dislike you. You're different. They're afraid of you."

  • _Morpheus
    Morph -- hilarious! Humor us -- what do you really do?

    Im not sure i understand the question. Why should i “do” anything? Peoples opinion of me is none of my business. Perhaps you could provide some context or example that i could as a basis for answering....

  • compound complex
    compound complex

    I came across a quote: "Never explain yourself, your friends dont need it & your enemies will never believe it!"

    It's really remarkable how much we tend to allow the opinions of others to control us! So my personal philosophy is, and I teach my kids this every day, BE THE BEST YOU CAN BE!! and remember --What You Think of Me is NONE of My Business!!!! -- Kimberly Aikens

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