"Inactivity" was the catchword -- yes, "their" catchword -- with which I kept certain family members in my life more fully than they'll be now. It has come to feel phoney, now that my in-laws have been disfellowshipped. So I'm out, too. It feels good, right for my situation and where I am. I don't give a shit how it affects the elders or the organization -- whether they rejoice or mourn is immaterial to me.
In a way, what you and some other posters have suggested would, for me anyway, only enslave me more to the organization, since I'd have to keep my ears open to what they may be saying, and perhaps consult an attorney, or else write more, longer letters threatening them with something I have no desire to do. For you, my situation is an abstract problem to be "solved" with clever strategy -- for me, it's an actual, complex thing I've lived with for my entire life and am ending in the way that brings me the greatest peace. I don't think that my solution (DA) is a joke just because the terminology isn't mine.