I am almost a fifteen-year "fader". I have no family in the religion. I do have two friends who sort of know how I feel but I don't rub it in their face. Why do they like me? Because they can be themselves around me and they know it.
I chose the "fade" because I felt such a sneaky and dishonest religion does not deserve to know what I am really thinking either.
I am also of a mind that sometimes a "fader" can drop hints here and there. However, it is not my intention to try and drag anybody out of the religion. I just want them exposed. This way at least people there will know what's going on and can make an informed choice if they want to stay.
I do not know any other "faders" locally and am not modeling myself after anybody. I get the cold shoulder in public when I run into JWs, but who cares? These people weren't my friends 25 years ago. I was a single woman who worked and faced the usual criticism from busybodies!
At this point, I have reached the point of apathy as to what they do or say and a lot of the anger has left me. I have long given up hope of getting "closure" because the people I'd like to tell off have passed away.
I have pretty much moved on.