I stopped regulary attending meetings and going in field service in January. The elders have left me alone for the most part I think because of my JW husband. Last week my parents came over and told me I needed to come back to meetings. They asked me to give it 6 months and totally devote myself to Jehovah and his organization. They said this limbo I was living was hurting to many people and I was hurting my relationship with Jehovah most of all. I asked them what would happen in 6 months and I no longer wanted to attend meetings or go in field service. They said we could cross that bridge when we got to it. I told them all they were doing was trying to delay the inevitable. I decided to put them out of their limbo and told them I was out for good and I was not going back.
They did not take that well at all. In fact they became very angry. I did not recognize them they were so mad. I was accused of being selfish and they wanted to know what happened and what had I been filling my head with. I was being a bad wife that my behavior caused my husband to resign as a MS. They went off about my cousin falling into apostacy and asked me if I was an apostate. They were asking question after question. It was very tense but I told them I did not want to discuss my beliefs at this time.
My mom grabbed me by the hand like I was a kid and tried to pull me to my bedroom and she was like put your meeting clothes on we are going to KH. I asked her and my dad to leave and they refused. They were determined that I was going to the meeting with them that evening. My husband told them to leave and their hysterics was making things worse. He literally pushed them out the door and walked them to their car.
He came back inside and he was very upset and he said he never though he would see the day when he would have to make my parents leave the house. He said he thought they would encourage me and not go off on me. He told me that he does not know what to do with our current situation. He said if I was having an affair or a drug addiction he would know what to do. That night was crazy but my husband did something he does not do and he skipped the meeting. We went to dinner and saw a movie. I am not going to read anything into that. I honestly think he just did not want to deal with my parents. So I figured that was the end of it. My parents would give me the silent treatment for a while and would come around later. Not so much.
A few days later I get a knock at the door and 2 elders were there. I have known them for years and they were very sad. They said my parents had told them I made the decision to permanently stop attending meetings. They asked if there was anything they could do to enourage me. I told them no and I thanked them for stopping by but there was nothing I wished to discuss with them. The elder I had known the longest said I was being very guarded and wondered why that was. I acted like I did not know what he was talking about. He asked me if I read or had association with anyone that would make me want to stop being a witness. Again I acted like I did not know what he was talking about. He got very frustrated with me and he asked do you believe the faithful and discreet slave is directed by Jehovah and I cut him right off and acted all offended. I told them I had nothing to say and shut the door in their face.
I was so relieved it was my parents and not my husband they sent the elders after me. They have nothing on me. They are right I am very guarded on what I have said openly. I think I have said enough to my husband that could get me summoned to a JC but he has not said anything. I know I have not heard the last from them. The elders showed up when they knew my husband was gone. In witness world isn't he my head and should he not have been there when they spoke to me? He said they never mentioned anything to him about stopping by. Of course not. They wanted to surprise me.
That started a whole other conversation from my husband about how I would probably get disfellowshipped eventually because I associate with apostates. I am trying so hard to prevent that. I understand now why people DA themselves so they don't have to deal with elders and relatives at their door when you least expect it. I am not going to do that and I will not meet with any elders. My marriage for now seems more stable than it has been in a long time but now I have my parents and the elders after me.