Longtime reader, first time poster...
You're getting some pretty sound advice here. Being that you aren't baptized, you have the upside of not being disfellowship. You have the downside of your parents dragging Elders into it and potentially "advising" you into studying for Baptism. At least that's the route my parents (specifically my mother) took when, one Tuesday evening before the weekly bible study I informed my mother (dad wasn't home from work yet) that I no longer wanted to go to meetings. Ever.
Her response? "DON'T YOU LOVE JEHOVAH YOUR CREATOR ANY MORE?! HOW DO YOU THINK THAT MAKES ME FEEL?" <insert tears and hysterics> (her, not me).
So I begrudgingly relented and went. (What her feelings had to do with it, I'll never know. But she's crazy and i wanted her to shut up.) That night, after dad got home, he said "Your mother told me what you said. You know our relationship with God is important. And if you want our relationship as father and son to remain strong, you need to keep a relationship with God."
That hurt. It also made me angry. I kept my mouth shut.
A week later one of the younger elders approached me after the Sunday meeting and said " I hear you're interested in studying for baptism?" Um? I am? Little did I realize until later that my mother was enlisting the full power and might of His loving organization to manipulate me. Fortunately, I did have the good sense to passively resist. (Thanks Ghandi). Went through the study and coaxed out of him that if I got baptized, i could only then be disfellowshiped. Otherwise i wasnt truly a Jehovah's Witness. Not a smart thing to tell an aspiring lawyer. I saw my opening and took it. After the study finished, I agreed with the elder that I would think about baptism.
Fast forward 16 years. I've been through college, law school am happily married with a child and... am not a Jehovah's Witness and don't attend the Kingdom Hall. And I never will again. I last went before I moved out from home and went to college.
My point in telling you this is (1) you aren't alone, (2) Don't underestimate the Orgs ability to undermine your closest relationships to other Dubs and, (3) passive, constant resistance works. Im not saying go full-on dead weight. But I am saying you make a decision and set a goal in your mind's eye and don't lose sight of it. Then, do something between floating along and treading water until you get your chance to split. It works so well and can frustrate dyed in the wool Dubs so much... that it will push them to a breaking point. And once that happens, you win. Because at that point, they've lost control. I did it for two years and avoided baptism by passively attending meetings and conventions... and silently plotting my life while the brothers and sister drone on and on and on....
You've got three years until you need to move from their legal protection. Bide your time and pick your battles. And whatever you do, don't get baptized. It's a contract you have no business entering into and is literally the point of no return.
Good luck and please keep us updated.