It is VERY common for JWs to go outside the organization searching for mates. It is common because they are FORBIDDEN to DATE AT ALL unless they are interested in marriage. So for them to have a relationship with anybody and not have their EVERY MOVE reported to the elders...they seek relationships outside the JWs. This is strictly forbidden. He KNOWS this. He has no EXCUSE for not telling you UP FRONT that he is a JW and what that entales. He obviously knows that if he had been honest wtih you...you would have bolted for the door. He basically lied to you sugar...to serve his own selfish purposes...and now that the the jig is up, he is trying to do an end run around his own selfishness by making YOU pay the price...by dragging YOU into the very religion he has JUST REJECTED by dating you in the first place! Who needs a creep like that?? And definitely not for the rest of your LIFE. Trust us...we KNOW of what we speak here and your heart was DECEIVED into thinking he was something else and he did nothing towards telling you the truth about who he is. The JWs call their religion "the TRUTH"...isnt it ironic to you that the first contact you have with the JWs ...is a LIE?
I was a JW and I married a JW and even now...now that I am OUT and he is still IN...our family is torn to shreds, Loved One, please dont do this to yourself..or YOUR extended family, who will not be able to celebrate Christmas or birthdays with you or your future children ever again. No Easter, no Fourth of July, no Thanksgiving...NOTHING. And while those are "only holidays"...they represent a removal of you from everything you hold dear now...ALL your nonJW friends ALL your nonJW relatives will be removed from your life. You will be expected to toe the line and you will never be totally trusted by his family because they will always question your "motives for becoming a JW" even if you made the huge mistake of doing this to keep him in your life.
Right now, my sister in law, my mother in law, my brother in law, my step dad in law, and all their children shun me, and thats not including all the friends I made in the 13 years I was a JW. Their kids are not allowed to see my kids, their cousins...and I am not allowed on their property, nor to speak to their children. I have to do holidays alone for my children...having to hide any meeger decorations I would be allowed to put up in the back of the house so no JWs from the street could see them. We have nothing but pain in our family and a division that will always be there.
Dont do this...the person you fell in love with is NOT this boy who is now backpeddling on you. He DECEIVED you. Please please please get out of this.