Yes, we should "care" about them.
If I were still "in", and had questions like I did years ago, with no where to turn, you bet I'd be here, looking around for answers. But, I'd be "lurking around", probably reading moreso than trying to post. One always has to remember that a JDub is full of guilt and fear anyway, so coming here would be a big step--even to just read.
But for a JDub, still in, to post is quite something else indeed. What a brave thing they have done. I would never wish to scare away anyone of that persuasion. I'm not out to try and "convert" back out anyone who is still "in". That's their trip, their life. But, all the same, I'd like to think that if they read my posts, they would see some help and love and balance. They would see a nice cross section of normal, everyday people who are living life honestly and openly, without the bondage of a cult.
They have always been taught, like we were, that the "world" is a scary place, full of evil people just waiting to take away your great gift of the "truth" and lead you down a path of destruction.
I'm trying to be a friend to all. My posts are honest. I'm a serious kind of person, so I guess most of my posts come off that way. I do have a sence of humor, and the subject does not always have to be serious, it can be fun too. That's another thing about the JDub world, everything is so @#$% serious. No one in a cult can ever relax and just enjoy living.
But, on the other hand, I want to be free to express myself openly without worrying that I'll offend someone who is still in the borg. I think if we just remember where we came from and all the pain associated with the "withdrawal", and how we had to learn slowly to not put everything in our life into one neat little bundle, then we won't have to worry if there are "lurkers".
And, if they are here in a dishonest way, that's their choice and we will most likely figure them out. Still, when you think about it, what better way to scope something out, than to "pretend" to be like everyone else.
Okay, I'm done now.