That's so true Perfection Seeker! It can be tough when a parent is a j.w. and you're not! Also, I don't have any children, but I can see in the cases of my neices and newhews how them being a j.w. or not, effected their relationship with my j.w. mother. My mother loved her grandchildren, but she seemed to be more fond of the j.w. grandchildren! I could see how that hurt my brothers and sisters too....many times.
I think a lot of it has to do with each individually situation. To be honest, I think any relationship with a j.w. is toxic and it's up to the individual to determine what is healthy and what is unhealthy. I don't see my j.w. siblin's much. My parent's are deceased. I have non j.w.'s siblins that I associate with though. I also feel that my relationship with my j.w. mother was different than my relationships with my j.w. siblins. For some reason, I tolerated my mother's j.w. ways, but I don't have the same draw to my j.w. siblins. I love them, miss them at times, but for me it's so one-sided. AND as the day's turn to months and months turn to years, I am realizing that we don't even know each other anymore.
There isn't a situation where my j.w siblins and I can get together, hang out and let our guard down. * I D.A.ed in 99 * So now I'm beginning to think , why bother, ya know, it's not really going to go anywhere!!!
We have a uncle that is in poor health. I am asking myself, rather I'll attend his funeral when he passes. Isn't a funeral, a place, where you get love and support? I got that j.w. kind of love at my mother's funeral. I beginning to think, that's the kind of luv I can do without!!!
Ain't noth'in like that hovah kind of love!!!
Hang in there my friend, only you can decide what to do, but I hope our expierences will help ya in some way!
Tink =:o)
