How Do You Discipline YOUR Kids? (page 3)

MrMoe

Eman and ANG - I agree, taking away a child's possesions is a GOOD one. All I have to do is say, "Emmie, do you want me to take your "Totally Troll Doll" away? That stops her dead in her tracks...

Kisses,

Moe

P.S. Me and TR -- The "Totally Troll Doll" wedding

TR: Is this OK to wear?

MrMoe

TR and Moe on thier honeymoon playing doctor and nurse and makin babies...

HEY WAIT A SEC TR -- YOU ARE ALREADY MARRIED!!! DOH

Moe you're right, anger has no place around discipline, teaches them the wrong things. I did spank my boys but I doubt I would have ever spanked a daughter if I had one. Even then I tried to make it consistent. One boy was a little thief and liar, he got 3 swats each time to lied or stole. No more no less. My youngest son reacted very well towards verbal punishment along with being grounded. So a stern talking to along with time out was all it really took.

Moe you really need a sit down with the parents. But as in discipline with a child, do it when you aren't angry that way you will better get your points across and won't come off like a nag. You really need to sit them down and tell them if things continue you won't be able to live like this and they will have to leave. If they don't understand that then they aren't trying to understand.

I allowed a homeless family to live rent free in my rental for two months until the got on their feet. It was a stupid move on my part. It took me an additional 3 months, for a total of 5, to get them out because they knew how to work the system.

I now ask myself this, why is it that no other friends or family members are willing to help these sorts of people? Is it because they've already burned everyone they know?

Good luck

MrMoe

And you all thought JUST PERHAPS MissyMoe was gonna be serious. HA HA HA, but only for a twinkling of an eye...

Kisses,

Moe

Angharad

Oops Safe

I suck at "follow thru"

Sorry if you thought I was talking about you when I said it annoyed me when parents didnt follow thru, if I'd noticed that before I would have phrased it different - I was talking more about kids that are at the age mine are eg dont do that or else you will go in your pram etc when trying to stop tantrums

Edited by - angharad on 20 June 2002 11:30:58

HomebutHiding

Moe, the 10 yr old girl, not at all ashamed to pulling a full-out temper tantrum in public, WANTS to be hit, I am convinced of this. Then she could run back and tell her mommy that Pop hit her. He, of course, does NOT hit her. She displays a definite need to be victimized. Makes me wonder what's going on at the other end..when she is with mom and stepdad. My husband says she has been like this always, and he is a firm believer in nature over nurture..."It's just who she is." blah blah blah. We'll all get through, and the kids will grow up to be well-adjusted people. they will make their own way. i just hope they can be happy, and not have to undo any of their childhoods to that end.

TR

Moe,

Hmmm.. Trolls doing the wild thing.... I like it. I like it a LOT.

TR

MrMoe

LB - Excellent points

HomebutHiding - I feel for you, trust me. That is a situation Iwould NEVER want myself to be in.

TR - tee hee hee

Kisses,

Moe

SoulJah

CONCISTANCY IS DEFINATLY KEY. I THINK THE NUMBER ONE THING IN MY HOUSE IS THAT WE DON'T OWN A TELEVISION. THIS WORKS BOTH WAYS, FIRST MY KIDS ARE NOT INFLUENCED BY WHAT THEY SEE ON TELEVISION; AND SECOND BUT JUST AS IMPORTANT MOM AND MYSELF ARE NOT SITTING IN FRONT OF THE T.V. SHOOING THE KIDS TO BE QUIET SO WE DON'T MISS SOMETHING..

WE DO ALLOW THEM ON THE COMPUTER TO PLAY EDUCATIONAL GAMES AND BROWSE THE INTERNET [WITH OUR SUPERVISION] & OUR COMPUTER ALSO PLAYS DVD's, SO THEY'RE NOT TOTALY DEPRIVED OF MOVING PICTURES.

THE MOST IMPORTANT THING I FEEL THAT I CAN DO IS TO BE INVOLVED WITH THEM AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. ONE OF THE BEST WAYS I DO THIS IS BY PLAYING WITH THEM. FOR EXAMPLE; I HAVE BOUGHT THEM OVER FOUR, 5 GALLON BUCKETS WORTH OF LEGO,S. LEGO'S ARE GREAT FOR ADULTS & KIDS; BUT INSTEAD OF SAYING, "WHY DON'T YOU GO PLAY WITH YOUR LEGO'S" I SAY "LET'S GO PLAY WITH YOUR LEGO'S"; THEN OFF TO THEIR ROOM I GO, AND SPEND ABOUT AN HOUR OR TWO BUILDING OR HELPING THEM BUILD.

THE LATEST THING I AM INVOLVED WITH THEM IN IS BMX RACING. MY 7 YEAR OLD HAS BEEN DOING IT FOR ABOUT 2 MONTHS NOW, AND HIS 5 YEAR OLD SISTER WANT'S TO BE INVOLVED. THIS IS GREAT FOR ME IN THE SENSE THAT I KNOW HOW TO DO TRICKS ON A BIKE & HOW TO JUMP RAMPS ETC... BUT I DON'T REALLY KNOW THE FIRST THING ABOUT THE RULES OF FOOTBALL. BELIEVE ME, WHEN THEY GET HOME FROM BMX, THEY DON'T HAVE THE ENERGY TO BE LITTLE HELLIONS. THIS ALSO IS NOT ANYTHING THAT I WOULD TAKE AWAY FROM THEM AS A FORM OF DICIPLINE.

AS FAR AS DICIPLINE GOES, MAKE THE PUNISHMENT FIT THE CRIME, SO TO SAY.IT'S VERY RARE THAT I HAVE TO USE MY HAND ON THEIR BEHIND; AND WOULD NEVER STRIKE THEM WITH AN OBJECT; FOR THAT MATTER I WOULD NEVER SPANK THEIR BOTTOM MORE THAN ONCE OUT OF FEAR OF GUILT. BESIDES I GOT THE DEATH LOOK DOWN TO A SCIENCE, ALL I HAVE TO DO IS GIVE THEM A LOOK WHILE WE ARE AT THE GROECERY STORE AND EVERTHING'S UNDER CONTROL.

NOW I HAVE THIS NEW ITEM THAT I USE TO MY ADVANTAGE. I USED NOT TO LET THEM PLAY WITH GUNS PERIOD WHEN THEY WERE YOUNGER; BUT ME BEING A CHILD AT HEART MOST OF THE TIME, PURCHACES A PAIR OF STARWARS LASERS THAT SHOOT NERF BULLETS.THIS ITEM CAME INTO MY HOUSE WITH ALOT OF RULES ATTACHED TO THEM. FOR EXAMPLE; THEY ARE ONLY ALLOWED TO PLAY WITH THEM UNDER MINE OR MY WIFES SUPERVISION, SECOND THEY ARE ONLY TO SHOOT AT PLASTIC BOTTLES THAT I SET UP ON THE BACK OF THE COUCH, ETC.... THIS ITEM IS ALSO GREAT IN THE SENSE THAT I DON'T MIND USING IT AS PUNISHMENT OF SORTS; LIKE, IF YOU GUYS CAN'T GET ALONG AND NOT ARGUE FOR THE REST OF THE EVENING YOU WON'T BE ALLOWED TO SHOOT BOTTLES.

I THINK THE ONE KEY THING THOUGH IS, NEVER UNDERESTIMATE THE POWER/INFLUENCE OF TELEVISION ON A CHILD'S BRAIN/ATTITUDE/BEHAVIOR

MrMoe

BESIDES I GOT THE DEATH LOOK DOWN TO A SCIENCE

That is a GOOD one!!!

Kisses,

Moe

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