Hi! I'm new here

by Powermetal4ever 31 Replies latest jw friends

  • JWdaughter

    You are already well into fading and your parents have clued in. It will really only become a problem if you get married in a church or get born again or something(things they can't really ignore)-they are likely more aware of what you are up to than you think. Start missing more meetings. When the elders or magazines say something really controlling, illogical or stupid(so obvious that they can't deny it)-mention that point. Mention that 'doesn't that paragraph seem really manipulative?' "Do you ever wonder about . . . ?"

    If you are asked point blank, think about this. You could tell them that you respect them and never want to hurt them, so you would rather be thought to be weak than to open your mouth and be an embarrassment to them (we mean DFd and they know it, but some things are better left unsaid-they don't want to go there!) The only reason I say this-you don't owe the org anything, but your parents can be made to understand that you don't really buy into it, but you aren't going to embarrass them publicly out of respect for their feelings. That is a huge concern for most. They love you and will worry. If mom pushes you into a study or elder meeting-don't do it. Just say no.

    WELCOME. Your English usage is better than most of ours. No worries. Sorry for being bossy.

    The meetings are a pain in the butt-literally and metaphorically. They are redundant, boring and a waste of time. And you don't need to hate the WT or JWs to think that or say it.

  • Oubliette


    Nice introductory post.

    I look forward to more contributions from you.

    Are you a musician or just a fan?


  • Powermetal4ever

    Honesty: Yes I have a feeling about that too, but I wonder why that is, is it because my music choice isnt mainstream? Seems like mainstream-rock are more little more accepted for some reason, or? I might be wrong.

    JWdaughter: Thanks for those encouraging words!

    Oubliette: Just a fan

  • disposable hero of hypocrisy
    disposable hero of hypocrisy


    But you can't string us along like that, we need music recommendations! Plenty of us in similar boats to you matey, you're no longer alone..

  • humbled

    Good to hear from you, PoM.

    It is a powerful moment to declare yourself even through the veil of the internet.

    So you have a grate ickskews reeson for bad spilling an poor inglish.

    Dont worry, theers plenty of folks heer to currect you-- lik me fur instints--who hav iglish as there #1 langwige.


  • sillygirlforgotpassword

    Ur funny Humbled xD

    welcome powermetal! I'm a 20 something year old living in a country where English isn't the first language (niether is it mine!)

    my parents were overbearing and still are :) I was dependent on them for ages but happy to be independent now. Welcome to this forum. May u find everything I've found here: relief that ur not alone, flabbergastedness at how we've been duped, a one way door out of a closed mind, empathy and don't forget fun and laughs :)

  • DisArmed

    Welcome, Powermetal, I was a believer and found it brutal to sit through most meetings and going in field service. I don't know how you non- believers do it. Look forward to your posts.

  • Spectre

    "Its boring and I hate it."

    What?!? You weren't thoroughly happified by it?


  • steve2

    Your English is very good. It is very hard to stay in a religion that teaches nonsense and whose meetings are boring. Just be careful what you tell your parents.

  • Jaidubdub

    Welcome Powermetal :)

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