Yeru,
I hate to see this kind of situation, but you're wife needs a wake-up call. If she doesn't want to go to counceling, you need to boot her out. It sounds like she's more into partying and goofing off than taking care of her responsibilities.
I'm sorry man, this is a tough situation. I used to have a "party-girl" for a girlfriend before I got married. It was the worse time of my life, next to being a 'hovah.
TR
UADNA-WA
Unseen Apostate Directorate of North America- Washington Division