Remember, that all of the ex-JW that responded, were once not ex. You were right there with him and held the same beliefs. Something, or someone, gave you the courage to leave. Maybe I am that for him.I would view this in a slightly different way. I don't think anyone can give you courage or a reason for anything, but rather you may be the reason FOR THEM. That means it goes back to them, if they think that's the case. It's not exactly this way for everyone, either. In my case it was DIScouragement, but that's another story.
joining will have to be MY decision, and MINE alone.Good for you. And this is exactly what I'm talking about - leaving would have to be his decision, if he decides to leave. But that is really secondary.
The one simple question you have to ask is what you each want out of the relationship, isn't it? If someone profess to believe one thing and yet behaves in another way, that should give you reason to pause and consider just what he really wants. It may be that he himself doesn't even know yet. Of course, this doesn't mean he's a bad person, but just how do you build a relationship if one of you don't know what he wants?