The pendulum seems to swing on this, I have been inactive a little longer than you, and a non-attender for the same time. My JW family do not actually shun me and Mrs Phizzy, but we are not invited to any of their functions of course, which is understandable, I think they know we would more than likely refuse.
What stings a little is that they do not inform us of family news, a pregnancy for example, but that may be laziness. This year, in small ways they seem to have reached out to us abit more, but it is only a slight "thaw".
What will be interesting is that early next year it is a big Anniversary for my aged JW parents, will we be invited ? Again, if we are, we will probably refuse, politely and kindly, as we could not stomach socialising with a large group of JW's. Yuk.