Steve,
""""As it stands, this whole thread oozes desperate, if not sensationalist, third-party information that even a crooked judge would throw out of court. "A friend of a friend told me so-and-so said...." Please! Credit us with some active brain cells. """"
You must remember this not a court of law just a discussion group with no need to trot out witnesses for every statement to be verified.
Sure, everyday discussion is one thing but it is easy to see how rumors spread, right? Besides, many of us here have been on the receiving end of the ugly rumor mill from the JW community who spread rumors like wild fire.
It's one thing to ask, "Did the man actually speak those exact words?" and wonder about it; it's an entirely other thing to confidently state, "Yes, that's the very thing he would say!" Like proof is not needed because it sounds like what he would say? That's shoddy thinking.
My view is not intended as necessarily judgemental, but more of a reasoned response to all this pretty normal wondering; hold your horses until there's some verification. Wouldn't you hope people would treat you the same if you were accused of having said or done something self-exposing but there was no proof?