When I first was appointed as an Elder, I could not wait to be on a Judicial Committee. It semed like most Hearings invovled Middle Age men and women cheating on their mates because either they had married early or felt that were being neglected by their mate. Most times I felt I need to take a long hot shower after a Hearing.
The toughest part was seeing these sweet young children grow up in "The Truth", and now you are about to Judge their future based on their Repentance. Many did not fully understand what it means to Repent(Insight vol #2 p.772). It was hard on me and other Elders because you "have to keep the Congregation clean" and not allow wronging to go unpunished, and thus they were Disfellowshipped. I have seen Elders openly cry, myself included, because we had to make the "Right Decision". Then at times, you have to talk to thier parents and other relatives about their association with a DF person. I have seen Committees DF or Reproved parents for not obeying the command to "Quit mixing in company...1 Cor.5:9" for keeping a relationship with their child. I hate to admitt it, I was on board with the B O E, "drinking the koolaid". Since my deletion over my son's DFing, I feel like Paul in this weeks Bible reading, the "scales" have fallen off my eyes.
In the Bible, we are reminded that when those were Baptized, it was Men and Women. Yet, we encourage Teenagers, even Preteens to get Baptized. Here in the US, you have to be 21 to buy a beer. But we are encouraging our young ones to take the most important step, decision in their lives at a young age! And if they do not get Baptised by a certain age, there is "something wrong with him or his parents".
We have a another former Elder (well qualified I might ad) in our Hall and I asked the COBE why is he not serving, his reply; "His child is not Baptized".