I can remember when this shunning thing began to become more of an issue regarding family. I was around __ or so years old and we just came home from the meeting, a Wednesday night. My parents were still talking about the meeting and bouncing it back and forth.
There was a discussion regarding how we should view our blood relitives that are not in the "truth". This was in the early 70's and there was a lot of tension in the air living in the last days and all. The congergation was instructed to think seriously about who they considered "Family"
Non believing blood relitives who will not surrive armagedon but perhaps take us down with them or our spiritual brothers and sisters who have the same desire to live in the new system with us?
Basically CHOOSE US or Them.
Unfortunately too many people stop reasoning for them selves and begin shunning there familys and I really believe that they're in a form of denial and don't even recognize how hurtful their actions are.
It isn't always the case but it is way too often.
I've been shunned by a lot of people and for years. There are a few who never shunned me but they are older mostly and new me when I was a child.
Now I am treated politely but I don't socialize and that is why. I would not ever be invited to a baby shower or anything but if I run into someone at the store there is usually a friendly polite exchange for a min. and thats it.
I will never allow anyone to tell me to shun my family.
I was admonished once a long time ago for refusing to shun my girl friend who was reproved for fornication.
I was her only friend during her pregnency, went to stay with her after she had her baby.
She went through a period of rejecting her own child for the first month. Being a mother to this little baby was the reason she was shunned and ridiculed for going on a year.
She was emotionally mess up for a while.
During this time I stayed at her parents house with her and got up with the baby everynight.
Took care of her as if she were mine. I wanted to do it because I cared about her she was my friend and everyone else including her family would not help her with the baby.
She eventually was reinstated and married a witness. I was her maid of honor just as we planned since we were 12 and she would be mine.
I even paid for her wedding dress because her father refused. I lived at home and the money I made working part time was pocket money so it wasn't really a big deal for me to make some payments on a dress. One of her sisters paid for the community building for the wedding. A friend of my mothers who had her own bakery made her wedding cake for free.
I started dating another worldly guy and when we decided to get married I asked her if she would be ready to my maid of honor.
She said No.
In fact she would not even attend the wedding and if I was really going to go through with marrying this guy she would no longer be my friend. The elders spoke to her about bad associations and If she wanted to continue to grow spiritually she would have to be more choosy about who she associates with.
That was the very last time I spoke to her.
No matter how thin you slice it there are always two sides