Just wanted to add that if you were a witness and have discovered the TTATT and have been succesful in keeping your kids free then be prepared for your believing spouse to blame everything that goes wrong with your children on the fact that you no longer believe and that the kids are following your example.
You sort of become the lightning rod for everything that may go wrong in your spouse's life as well as the kids.
If you know and understand that fact it will hopefully keep you from overreacting when it occurs.
Keep in mind the very real situations which many of us face. Like after school activities, dances, skirt length, tv shows, worldly friends and on and on and on. Kids are bound to push boundaries and that can put the non witness spouse right in the line of fire.
I have gotten by so far by remembering that i am doing this for the kids sake not just now but for the restof their lives and that my emotional discomfort is the price I am paying for their freedom.