If you did not want to be disfellowshipped, people should not become JWs.
Bullock pucky. It's not like they have some "join at your own risk (of being disfellowshipped if you disagree)" disclaimer. I didn't even know of disfellowshipping until I had been in a few years. No one I knew of was disfellowshipped and so it never came up. I heard it whispered about (because I was a new young black "sister" in a hall where, apparently, all of the other black "sisters" had been disfellowshipped at one point or another - all three for either dating, marrying, or being unmarried and having children by "unbelievers"). I couldn't figure out why some treated me as they did (I had not experienced it before moving to that congregation due to relocating). Found out, some were actually hedging bets as to how long before I committed some "sin" (adultery?) to warrant DF'ing. It was almost expected.
Even so, UNTIL then MY "study" always consisted of being told about the "love among brothers," and how "merciful" (Jehovah) was. My understanding was the DF'ing was the end of all attempts to "help" someone and that such one didn't "want" help... but had CHOSEN to not "love" (Jehovah) any longer... and so CHOSE to be DF'd. Of course, I had began to figure out THAT lie before it happened to ME... but I still gave those yahoos the benefit of the doubt, that perhaps they knew something I didn't.
They didn't. Most of them were/are quite happy to "expel" someone from their synagogue...
A slave of Christ,