Scott I agree the movie To a Lesser God (have the movie and saw the play) opens a door on the lives of people who are deaf. Attitudes need to change. And interestingly I think shows like Sesame Street that introduced characters with disabilities into the regular show went a long way towards opening some of those sealed tight doors.
The truth is that most people don't want to think about people with disabilities as sexual beings. Unless they can be taken advantage of. And the greater the disability the less they want to think about it. Sadly many people with disabilities believe no one would ever think of them as a sexual being so they often put themselves off the market before even trying.
I have to agree with iamallcool/s assessment of Marlee Matlin though. And here is why. I have met a few well educated people who are deaf. They have succeeded when most of the people around them have not, by their definition. I found it appalling that a teacher who was deaf and working in the school believed that most of the kids they taught would never amount to anything. No point in giving them a good education. let's just push them through the system. What?!!! She had gone to Gallaudet College in the US and returned with this attitude of "I can do it but I am special and you aren't". To find this in a teacher was unbelievable.
People will live up to or down to the expectations of those around them. This woman had no business teaching these kids