I've had depression as well as thoughts of suicide/not wanting to live anymore ever since my early teens and I knew that there was SOMETHING wrong but I didn't quite know what it was. All I knew was that I didn't feel good. It wasn't until after I graduated that I even heard of depression and the "low self esteem" that was at the root of it. It's only since I've decided to leave the JWs for good that, in turn, I found the root causes of my "low self esteem" and my negative thinking/self concept: It was the garbage I had to put up with from other JWs and the guilt drilled into my head by the WTS! I got rid of most of the JWs in my life and I'm trying to shed the guilt and shame instilled in me via my upbringing. The proper medication (for me) that I've received as of late seems to have really tipped the scales, though. Chatting with fellow XJWs online helps a lot too: It helps knowing that I'm not alone.
With all that being said, I don't believe so much in the concept of "self esteem" as in *self kindness*. I believe that people should be kind to themselves in that they should be forgiving, accepting and tolerant of their own mistakes and personal flaws, just like they should be with those of everyone else. People should be gentle and nurturing to themselves instead of beating themselves up for previous mistakes and present personality flaws. It's kind of like the Golden Rule in reverse: One should treat his/herself in a way that others would want and expect to be treated by him/her. The concept of self sacrifice as exemplified by the Judeo/Christian tradition is often taken way out of context by modern society. OTOH, too high a sense of "self esteem" is little more than narcissism, really...
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