I just wanted to thank you all for reading and responding to my post. When I first read your comments...I couldn't help but cry (again!) A special thank you to those who sent me email. I truly appreciate the time and kindness you showed. Just thinking of all the lives and families that have been devastated by the WT is mind-blowing. I have listened to and cried with some wonderful people in the past four years. I really felt I had come far in the healing process....this has been an unexpected and draining turn.
You have lost a lot, and may lose more. You probably need time to grieve your losses. -SaintSatan
SS, thank you for reminding me that it is a grieving process. I am (to use my own words) "allowed" to cry. I hope that I can latch on to what has been gained in this loss.
(((((((HUGS)))))))))))) Keep on keepin' on hun. -ofcmad
*smiles* ty
You should know by now that there are many who have felt exactly how you feel. The particulars of the story all differ but almost all exjw's have to go through the dark times. -tdogg
Yes, I do know. It's very comforting to be able to share how I feel...with people who understand exactly. I know there are brighter days ahead. I feel a Kingdom Melody coming on... song #23 "The Bible's Hope for Mankind" right now this is what i'm going through (brother's verse) :::sings in a baritone::: "Dark days are here: man lives in fear..." ....and I can't wait for the sister's turn :::sings in her best high pitched shrilly voice::: "But the Bible gives us a reason for cheer..."
I had a JW aunt that wouldnt even talk to me end up killing herself.-tdogg
I am very sorry tdogg for your loss. Sometimes, in our own pain...we forget what our friends and family who choose to remain inside the WT feel. As a JW...when my best friend/sis-in-law was disfellowshipped I viewed it as her death, and I mourned the loss for a long time.
P.S. NEVER, NEVER, give up on sexual innuendo. Thats just crazy talk.-tdogg
LOL thanks...perversion is my path to peace.
I've lost everyone that was in my life. I've gone on..a long way, but there is a deep, deep sadness that I don't think will ever completely go away forever. -ladonna
You're right ladonna...it feels like the JW mentality is interwoven into my DNA....the only way to get rid of it is to cut off my head. (don't worry i'm not that desperate lol)
Many of us here would like to share a hug with you; we do understand.-Sam Beli
((((Sam)))) huggs back...and thanks.
I dont think anyone has ever written
anything here that I personally
could relate to as well as this thread.-ring
Sometimes you connect with people and initially you can't explain why. Maybe we were meant to relate. -SmoldeRING
Well, just today, I finally came out to them. It didn't feel as liberating as I thought it would, but it wasn't as hard as I thought it would be either.-jesussaves
(may I call you) Jesus-sometimes the perceived outcome is so much different from what really happens. People can literally become frozen because they are afraid of the unknown. You took a big step....I'm very proud of you. Thanks for showing (us) it's possible.
You say you "allowed yourself" to read anti-JW stuff as if it was a weakness. That tells me you are still in the grips of the Tower. -Perry
Perry...maybe (see DNA reference above) I don't view it as a weakness...far from it. I viewed it as a step I wasn't ready (or willing) to take yet. When you first become (exposed) to new ideas...especially when they differ so drastically from your own, it's overwhelming. There are thousands of EXJWs and hundreds of EXJW sites online. When people leave the WT they certainly do not end up in the same place (belief-wise) I knew it would take some time and some emotional energy to delve into the search for "truth". I'm a procrastinator. (I also know it will take some time and emotional energy to organize my closet...until then, I'm content to open the door...toss something in....and shut it immediately)
Once the break is complete then you will see thing differently.-Frenchy
Agreed.
Start to educate yourself, if you haven't already. Ray Franz's books are excellent. And then just go to the library and read anything that catches your fancy. -patio34
One day, a few yrs ago...out of no where...COC arrived in my mail box. I read it piecemeal. (Thank you whoever sent that to me) I think I'll pick it up again. *smiles*
Your friend in suffering and in Freedom. -Lari
((((((((((((((Lari))))))))))))
...it was not until last year I even knew there were so many Ex jw's who are "normal" people and not evil apostates...Just wanted to give ya a quick ((((hug)))) and peck on the cheek.-mommy
EXJWs are NORMAL? LOL Actually, I do think all the good ones leave the WT.
I feel your pain also. I've been there and I still am in many ways.
I went through Horrible depression for several years and I am on my way to recovering. One day at a time. It's very hard when you have family who are so devoted to something thats been the biggest part of your life your whole life. It is like dieing. But you do slowly come back to life. -plmkrzy
I couldn't have said it better. It is like dying.
I'm not healed yet, but I haven't given up yet. -joelbear
((((((Joelbear))))) Thank you sweetie! and Thank you for letting me see you nekkid. I will never forget you (I can't get the visual outta my head) *muah*
There is no magic wand to wave and make this whole wtbts thing go away. But I hope you find the strength to get on with your life and live it the best you can.-joy2bfree
Can't I just take a pill?