Long story short, I have been a JW for the pst 7 years. I am married with 2 kids. Hubby is a die hard JW who is an MS and would like to be elder. My husband's immidiate fam are all JWs and my mother is a JW as well. We are very involved with the cong. we always have get - togethers and I am the one throwing showers for everyone.
I have had questions about my beliefs all along but have been silencing them..like we are told to do...'just trust in Jehovah and he will reveal things in his due time'. I have known a few lawyers, doctors and scientists who are JWs and I reasoned that they are such smart people and they believe that this is the truth....I should too and I should not question it (now I realize this type of reasoning is very common and majorly flawed! and the smartest people make the best cult members). About a month and a half ago the smallest unscriptual WT teaching made me go back to my questions and examine the 'truth' for myslef. Well, you know the rest.....
I made a huge mistake early on. I shared some of my thoughts with my husband. I thought that maybe he would have some of the same doubts. ANd maybe I can help him to see the 'truth' for what it is. We are close and tell each other everything. But we are not on the same page when it came to this. He got quite defensive and when he couldnt answer a question I posed he said "do I have to witness to you now?". Since then he's been pushing a shepherding call. I have made it clear that I do not wish to have one. I know that I will get dfd ..it's just a matter of time. I would like to stick a round for a little while to try to get my family to think for themselves...get them to view things sfrom a different prespective. I realize this is difficult and requires patience and caution....but for the sake of my family I would like to do everything I can in my power to help them become critical thinkers.
Last week I started researching steven Hassan's methods of exit counselling and I would like to use some of his suggestions...while I can. HAs anyone used any of his methods effectively? which questions did you find most effective? What worked and what didn't?
As far as I understand his approach is:
- present info about other cults draw indirect parallels
- discuss phobias and how they are applied in a belief system
- find out what it would take for the person to question their beliefs
- Demonstrate flaws in belief system
Please correct me if Im wrong about the above.
I think as long as I am not dfd I will have some credibility with my mom and my husband but as soon as I become an 'apostate' anything I say will be disregarded.
Looking forward to your feedback :) (so sorry if spelling is wrong...Im usually very anal about these things but am in a hurry right now)