If I had it to do over again, the one thing I would have focused on is a meticulous plan of activities that involved skipping meetings and service. I would have started out a couple a month and then gradually moved it up. I would have tried to find the things that she was passionate about and had family outings regularly at those events. Also I would have tried to make sure that at least one regular activity involved meeting new people. Perhaps a volunteer organization that the whole family could participate in. It would be lots of fun and educational at the same time. Life enriching - and anything but boring.
I was so focused on myself and feeling cheated that I dropped the ball on that opportunity, although, I still have some occassions to start slowly integrating such ideas back in our life. But you've been patient for a long time, and I think it's paid off.
Once she sees that LIFE and LIVING are the answers to that infamously misquoted question "where else will we go?" - She'll have figured it out herself without having to be told. It will be her own realization. You will have showed her the way, but not forced it upon her. So it will be her discovery, and that is when it will stick.
Also, even on times that she still goes to the meetings - it's important that you too do something productive and fun. If she comes home and gets the impression that you've been spending time thinking about what a waste meetings are, and maybe sees you bitter and pissed, then it will be negative. (I know from experience) but if she finds that you're happy because your kids had fun at a softball game or you reached a new goal in your work-out, or helped someone in hospice, etc. etc. then she'll see that this "life" thing that you're doing is working. Well, that's my 2 cents buddy, and it's just as much for me as it is for you ... ;)
OH PS - one saturday night a month, a surprise romantic overnight evening somewhere; will guarantee an extraordinary positive experience for both of you , with a skipped sunday meeting to boot.