Well, harrumph! How US-centric!
I live in America,, though not the US, and I nominate MY city ,,, HALIFAX, as one of THE gayest cities.
Rosie O'Donnell even brought her 'gay marriage cruise' to Halifax and they all got married here. woop! woop!
( and by the way, I'm just pulling your leg, not really mad, but the rest is TRUE! )