My Dad's passing

by happyexjw 51 Replies latest jw experiences

  • wheelwithinwheel
    wheelwithinwheel

    So sorry HEJ

    It was really nice for you all to have been with your father in his last breaths, loving and reassuring him. Your mother will now need a lot of support. I'm glad to hear you are there for her and she appreciates your help and love. It's a difficult time to go through

    Peace and strength

    Wheels

  • Broken Promises
    Broken Promises

    So sorry for your loss.

    My dad died a year ago and it was difficult dealing with the JW thought process but you'll find the strength to get through this situation.

  • nelly136
    nelly136

    **talking about creamations and how they are like cattle markets and how they burn bodies together and you dont get the ashes of your loved one.**

    that is an utter load of bollox!

    sorry you and yours are having this kind of crap thrown at you when really hugs all round would have been soo much nicer (and christian even)

    ((((((hxj)))))

  • skeeter1
    skeeter1

    I am so sorry for the loss of your dad.

    I am also sorry for the insensitivities of the Jehovah's Witnesses around you. They are programmed to not reject the Organization or Jehovah, and to preach. That's what they are programmed to do. Like a "dog catcher" or a "tax collector", it is what they do. They are not programmed to be civil people, to be sensitive to other's feelings and concerns. And, they are not programmed on how to handle any discourse. When you have family who are "still in"; you can never be at peace. They will take any opportunity as an open door to convert you. Now, you have to grieve the loss of a parent, as well as this family rift.

    Distance yourself from these toxic family members who are trapped in a cult.

    Join a local group for bereavement.

    Thanks for sharing.

    Skeeter

  • under the radar
    under the radar

    Dear happyexjw,

    I am so sorry to hear about your dad. I hope you find some comfort in that he went peacefully in the end, surrounded by his loving family.

    I am appalled, but not shocked, by your treatment at the hands of your JW relatives. Their whole lives revolve around their version of the "Truth" and they are taught to treat with disdain any who do not fit into their little mold of how a "True Christian" should think and talk and act. I am so sorry you had to put up with their self-righteousness... especially at a time Iike that.

    I lost my own father in May, his brother the previous February, and the brother's wife in June. I was specifically disinvited to the customary gathering after my father's service, even though it was to take place at a restaurant open to the public. I was warned there would be a "scene" if I showed up. Since the vast majority of those who would be there would be Daddy's friends from the congregation anyway, I gracefully bowed out without a fuss. But it still hurt. Mind you, I am neither DA nor DF (though truth be told, that's only a technicality). It just alternately saddens and infuriates me when ordinarily kind and loving people turn into cold unfeeling martinets just because one no longer shares their precious beliefs and superstitions.

    You would think a person truly "Christian" at heart would suspend his judgmental, self- righteous attitudes at a time like that, particularly when it comes to other family members. I grieve with you that the words and actions of some in your family actually made a time of sorrow even worse.

    Please accept my condolences in the loss of your father. May you find some measure of peace in the knowledge that he now knows the truth about the "Truth" (whatever that may be) and that he is no longer suffering.

    Radar

  • OnTheWayOut
    OnTheWayOut

    So sorry to hear of your loss and your family attitudes. Strength to endure to you.

  • Ding
    Ding

    Condolences to you.

    My dad died 40 years ago and I still miss him.

  • carla
    carla

    My deepest sympathies in your dad's passing. My deepest sympathies for having to deal with jw's at this time! they make me sick, they should be ashamed of themselves.

  • mouthy
    mouthy

    Accept my deepest sympathy.
    Dont Take the insults from the "braindead" relitives.
    Remember God examines HEARTS> your Dad sounds like his was a good one.
    He is where the promised land is....No more pain ,tears, or heartaches.
    I do hope he was cremated.... I will be !!!!my three kids were,!!!from dust to dust
    ashes to ashes. He is at PEACE,.I know your in pain .Keep showing the love

    to your MUM, she needs you....UNhappyjw,at this point in life
    But to remember DAD is in GLORY!!!!!!!!

    God Bless

  • compound complex
    compound complex

    My condolences and love to you, happyexjw.

    CoCo

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