My Dad's passing (page 3)

anewme

Very well written story. Sorry about your dad and family tension. You are right of course about the JW rudeness towards you.

Show your mom a lot of love.

Peace to you.

Anewme

I'm so sorry for your loss. You will be in my prayers. I did not experience ill treatment by JWs when my mother died 12 years ago. As a strong and independent female they just did not try me. I did have some sisters that tried to take over my own house and tell ME what to do. For the most part, they were helpful. That may not happen today, because I don't attend meetings anymore. The JWs that I've come in contact with have been self righteous, judgemental hyprocrates. You will experience grief for awhile and it has not been easy for me after all these years. Don't let them intimidate you. They can't have control over you unless you give it to them. My mother died as a faithfull witness and pioneer. She never made judgments with her children. She never shunned us and let us make our own way in life. You have to remember that being in the Borg is all that most of them know. They are not the most "intelligent" people. If it was me, I would tell your aunt and uncle to kiss my a____ while I take a s____.

Slip

happyexjw

Thank you all so much for your kind words my dad was a true character adored by many believers and nonbelievers. Im dreading the funeral but just like mum want it to go peaceful and give him a good send off, I promised him I would do him proud with the funeral arrangements, fulfilling all his wishes.

I will be smiling nicely and talking kindly to all who have come to pay their respects for dad.....if they start on me I will just walk away from them. My aunt and uncle dont need anyone to make them look bad...they do it so nicely themselves!

Again thank you, your words bring me comfort.

xxx

dysfunction

I am sad and I am mad. I really don't know what to say... Well I will pray for you.. you don't deserve this they would have treated a so called worldly person better.. That elder lacks tact and what an ass........

Nickolas

It has been observed by me that people sometimes take license to act inappropriately when a close family member dies. My dad died back in 2008. I was several hundred miles away when I took a call on my cellphone from my sister, who told me he was dying. It was late evening and there were no flights available to get me back home, so I rented a car and started to drive. Every half hour or so I'd check in to find out what was happening. Not long after I started my drive back I was told by my sister-in-law that my dad had been given the Catholic sacrament of Extreme Unction, known more commonly as Last Rites, at the behest of my sister. I drove throughout the night in a dark mood. Not only was my dad dying but a member of his family had ignored his explicit and written last wishes. My dad was a lifelong atheist but one of the kindest, gentlest, most generous men I have ever known. The scene of some unctuous, dark robed Catholic priest murmuring latin phrases while doing the sign of the cross with his hands over the dying body of my father and annointing his forehead with blessed oils played over and over in my head as the miles passed. He was unconscious but still alive when I arrived just after daybreak. I was exhausted and fighting off a feeling of being hollowed out - I know you understand what I mean, happyexjw. The first words out of my mouth when I saw my sister were "How could you have gone ahead and done that when you knew he didn't want it?" Her reply was "What did it hurt?"

Anyway, you're going to feel pretty awful for awhile, especially in a few weeks time. Continue not to take any bullshit from anybody. Process your loss in your own way and be comforted that you stuck by your dad and your principles.

Hadit

I'm so sorry for your loss. It is awful what the elder and your aunt & uncle put you through. Completely inappropriate and unloving. Your dad sounds like a wonderful man - continue to keep his memory alive.

Please take good care of yourself and your mom. Peace and healing to you and your family.

Hadit

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