First Elder attempt to hunt me down (page 2)

mamalove

Well it's kind of funny because this elder is ubber liberal. He and his wife like their liquor, they themselves have been counseled many times on their conduct. I know alot of their dirty little secrets. He used to say things about how hot he thought I was and that he would do me if he could. Yes, I am not kidding you and not trying to act like I am hotstuff or anything. I had told my husband at the time and he was even uncomfortable about it. I am sure he was sent after me because they feel that I am more inclined to open up to him since we had hung out with them quite a bit. Or maybe because he was my bookstudy conductor. But I am sure my ex went whining to him after the halloween festivities this weekend because you know he grills the kids about what goes on and he wants so bad for me to get "punished."

I will ignore him, but if they ever make more attempts, I think I will do the whole "I am all set at this time, and do not need assistance, thank you, but do not call back. If you make an effort to continue, I will have my attorney be contacting the police, and the elder body to have the contact ceased." Is that good enough? Oh, the funny thing is that it will be hard for them to do drive by's as I live on a dead end.

I guess I will wait and see.

Mad Sweeney

If you ignore them, they will continue to hunt you down ... they have control

I disagree. If you ignore them then you can keep on ignoring them. In what way does that give them control? Sure, they may try again and again but that's their issue isn't it?

Magwitch

If they smell a sexual escapade, they will come out of the wood work. Do not talk to these perverts. They can get their sexual highs from their partners or from porn - like most everyone else.

sabastious

Don't meet with the elder alone. You may not be able to control your urges and you'll tempt him into fornicating...per the flock book.

This sounds like the start of a script to a porno, and a hot one at that!

-Sab

wannabefree

If you ignore them then you can keep on ignoring them. In what way does that give them control?

To me ... although I am not at that point yet ... if I was involved in a lifestyle that would bring out the judicial tribunal and I was trying to avoid it, they would still have an amount of control over my every day life. Being involved with JW's seems like it is something that NEVER goes away!

serenitynow!

This sounds like the start of a script to a porno, and a hot one at that!

That's debatable. I haven't seen that many hot elders.

dysfunction

Change your number unless your ex gave it to him

SweetBabyCheezits

I really do not want them to have control over me nor do I want to play by their rules. So my first instinct is to ignore him. What are my options here? I wish they would mind their own business and let me be. Why harp when someone has been gone so long?

ML, if you really want to fade, I would screen their calls every time. The main reason we failed in our fade was because I made the mistake of opening my front door one day. Prior to that, for months I just didn't answer their phone calls. I would fear a phone call could lead to a JC hearing.

That said, we have a certain amount of closure now that we're DF'd... some peace... and we are finding it easier to move on with life. Have you considered the possibility of DA'ing? Ask yourself (at the risk of sounding like a Watchtower), "What's holding me back?"

wasblind

Evidently, this new Elders book is gonna make it hard to fade

if the Elders are incouraged to round up the sheep.

mamalove

Pro's of DF/DA: Total openess on my stance on the WTBS, No more tip toeing around things with my ex, I would be able to finally contact my old friends and tell them what happened so there was not rampant rumors.

Cons: It is their rules, I don't like that, my ex will get some satisfaction out of saying that I am DF/DA, My kids will have some form of shame and pity put on them when their dad takes them to the hall, and my family in the borg will have the stigma of a df'd child.

All and all, It will probably be freeing, but at this time it would be easier to let them bugger off for a while. I am busy and have more important things to do!

How many times do they try and call you before they start stopping by? I am way out of their territory and someone would have to drive specifically in my neighborhood to try and snag me.

First Elder attempt to hunt me down

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