I recently posted a question regarding Atheism in my facebook and literally the comments were blatantly absurd and based on misconceptions.
When will this end.
Being disfellowshipped and shunned by literally ALL the friends I had spent years building up into a legacy for later life came out of left field for me.
Didn't see it coming or happening.
I was devastated for a long while.
Then, one day, I was talking to an acquaintance of mine; a non JW. I mentioned the disfellowshipping thing and the shunning and the feeling of being dead while alive.
The friend said to me, "Who wants fellowship with people who don't share our values?"
That seemed to stop me in my tracks as I fished for an answer.
Surely it was more complicated than that.
While I was thinking, the friend added: "Sounds like a formula for lifelong misery trying to be accepted by people who just don't get it."
There it was in a nutshell.
Birds of a feath and all that.
Why seek the company and acceptance of people who just don't get it? Don't value my values? Don't see my value?
What is WIN/WIN?
Finding people like yourself who share your values.
Crows with Crows. Rabbits with Rabbits.
Putting a cuddly Bunny next to a pack of Wolves is going to lead to a delicious misunderstanding for the rabbit.
The trick is knowing where to find people like yourself.
Or, to put it another way. If you are truly unique in all the world it is going to be a lonely life.