Welcome Vampire.
Interesting to hear your story.
Like many have already said, you had a narrow escape. Below I will tell you why.
I'm sure many rumours have gone around about me. I'm probably referred to as the wife-beater by some after a so-called 'sister' and her JW family accused me of being many of the same things as you - controlling, aggressive, violent, unpredictable. We were married for two years, had a little girl and my whole world was turned upside down.
The truth is I had started to see through the WTBTS long before our split and I was a regular visitor to this site. I used to relay a lot of things to her which I could tell she felt uncomfortable about.
She used to tell her Nan a lot of things I used to say. Her nan is a hardcore JW - she would NEVER question anything the borg says or dare to go against what Elders told her. A lot of her family, especially the women, had long-term mental issues - none of them could hold a relationship down and had broken marriages behind them.
This was a fault on my part. My ex-wife would often tell me of the abuse she suffered at the hands, both sexual and physical at the hands of family and other people. I guess it was only a matter of time before I was accused and so it came to be. But that is what is being called 'naive' is.
Following our separation, her nan told me that our marriage had failed because "I hadn't followed the truth". What a load of tripe. They influenced my ex-wife, took my daughter away from me and subsequently tried to brainwash her into JW thinking.
This was all reported to the Bethel by my Mom - also a JW. She was also falsely accused of abusing my daughter by my ex-wife and her family. Nothing was done. The Bethel think slander and gossip is obviously ok. They just told my Mom the classic line to "leave things to Jehovah" and work on her own spirituality.
Anyway, my ex-wife left the organisation also and went to live with a man 100+ miles away from her family. At least I see my daughter now away from these cretins.
What made me laugh is that many so-called JW friends encouraged me to return to the org. They couldn't understand how I couldn't put this whole episode behind me and move on. Do they really think I could sit with these people singing praises to Jehovah and being a robot to the WTBTS after what they put me through?
Anyway, I met a wonderful person who I have been in a relationship with for over two years. We have a 11 months old son and are very happy - a lot happier than I ever was married to a nutball JW with issues. It just goes to show that you don't need the WTBTS to have a happy family life.
