I went into my favorite cafe this afternoon for lunch and saw a husband and wife that go to the congregation I used to go to. The woman is a pioneer and has been for years and her husband is an elder who I've talked to a couple of times since I stopped going to meetings 3 years ago but I have not talked to her in 3 years.
When I got my lunch, I looked up and noticed them sitting by the window so I went over to them and said hello. He said Hi but when I said hello to the woman she just kinda looked at me.
As they started to leave she faced me and said she had to tell me that she was really angry at me and she was sorry but she just was. I asked her why she was angry and she told me because I've changed and I'm a different person now. Then she told me that I am rude, and self centered. I think she said a few other negative things but I can't remember what they were now.
It surprised me because I haven't talked to her since I stopped all activity with the bORG. I asked her how I have been rude and she couldn't really pinpoint anything specific I mean how could she, I haven't seen or talked to her. I told her I was sorry if my actions have upset her and then told her if I seem rude to please tell me so I can make adjustments.
I now realize that there must be a lot of gossip going on in the congregation where we went, after all we were one of the pillars in the church or at least that's what we've been told.
She being a pioneer must pick up on this gossip and then because she is a very uptight pioneer she takes it all serious and figures it must be true.
Then I thought about the accusation of me being self centered I told her that quite possibly that perception has been partially my fault because whenever I do see some of the witnesses around town I'm always quick to demonstrate the joy I have in life.
So I figure maybe talking about my granddaughter or about a vacation I went on or any other fun thing I am doing brands me as a pleasure seeking, self centered ass hole.
Her husband by the way did not say much. I asked him if he thought I was rude and he hedged on answering because he may have not wanted to disagree with what his wife said, I understand that but I was hoping because I had recently talked to him he might be upfront with me. He managed to get out of answering me so I continued the discussion with his wife.
She insinuated that I used to help people and that now I no longer do so. I told her I didn't feel it necessary to list my good works to people when I meet up with them at a store or in a coffee shop but if she wanted me to I would tell her the good works I have been doing. She shook her head so I dropped the subject.
One thing I did do at that point because I could see how nervous she was, I commended the passion she has for her beliefs and told her that she has been the only person in the congregation who has actually faced me and told me of her displeasure in my leaving the church. I told her I admired her courage and was glad she spoke up to me. I then asked her if I had been rude through this whole conversation she said no. At that point I wanted to eat my lunch so I gave her a hug and shook the gentlemen's hand and said goodbye
That's the last time I hope I ever see either of them.
I hate what this religion does to people. It makes them judgmental and afraid and personally limited.
LD