I don’t know if I’ve posted this before but here it goes. My sisters step dad has a nice who we’ll call Roxy for now, I’ve known this kid since she was two and she and my sister grew up together. Roxy’s mom is a walking disaster; she has five kids all by different fathers (has had at least two abortions), has never worked a day in her life and I’m pretty sure she does drugs, and probably sells them too, however I can’t prove it. She has never been what one would call a good mother; she has a vicious temper and has on several occasions been reported to social services for child abuse (at least three times by me, several by my mother and step dad and some by school officials).Nothing has ever come from reporting her, the most she’s had to do is go to parenting classes.
Roxy started getting into trouble when she was 11, she started shoplifting, getting into fights and refusing to go to school. We saw how bad things were getting and managed to get her mom to let us look after her, she moved into our house and my mom enrolled her at my sisters school and for a long time she seemed to have settled down, she was going to school every day, was not fighting and as far as we know was not she was not shoplifting. Well one day her mom calls my mother and says she’s moving in with her new boyfriend and would be having Roxy move back home, we all thought it was a terrible idea but she went behind my moms back and signed Roxy out of school and then failed to enroll her at any other school but she moved so often during that year that I think no one caught the fact that she and her sisters were not in school.
My sister pulled me aside one day and told me she was concerned about Roxy and thought that maybe she was in a gang and having sex with more than one partner (she was 13 at the time), we sat down with Roxy and explained all the things that could happen if she kept up doing the things she was doing everything from getting STD’s to getting knocked up, she just got up from the couch and said “it’s my body and I’ll do what I want to”. Fast-forward a few months later and she calls my mom to tell her that she’s pregnant, I think we all cried, how was she at 13 going to care for a baby? She had the baby Dec of 2008, and we fell in love with Nate. In July of last year she was giving the baby a bath and did not check the water before putting him in, she ended up burning his legs and he ended up in the hospital for two weeks. Due to that we managed to get physical custody of him while social workers determined whether they would give her back the baby. In August she called my mother and told her she was pregnant again, we tried to talk her into giving the second baby up for adoption or letting us care for it but she refused, she wanted her babies to be with her.
The courts returned Nate to her and in March she had her second baby. Yesterday I went home and found my mom shaking, apparently Roxy is pregnant again, that’s right folks at the age of 15 this girl will have three babies under the age of three. I called social services and told them that clearly she’s having sex with her boyfriend who is over 18 and they said that there was nothing they could do, you have to be able to prove that her mom is allowing her to have sex with him in order for it to be considered abuse.
I don’t know what to do. I know that this girl can not take care of herself let alone three babies, we normally have the babies three or four days a week (she’ll drop them off and then leave), she often calls my mom to say she has no money, no food for Nate (he’s eating solid food now) and no money to do laundry and yet she’s allowed to keep these kids!
I really need your help guys, what would you do in this situation? Any suggestions would be much welcomed!