|Just keep in mind Gary and DGP that you're below their level according to some margin of society's rules and standards.|
That use to bother me, but now I know it is just a thing of their's. I guess they tend to look at you on the outside only. My JW in-laws seem pretty nice and according to some standards, one could say they are 'below' my level. But I guess in either case, it is really best not to judge. One thing, for certain, we are all below God's level.
Just remember, when I am at a meeting in the Kingdom Hall, I'm almost certain to have a 'please pass the jelly moment.' Maybe I am just not classy enough to be a witness.
I think the first time I was bothered by it was when I was first dating the woman who became my wife. She told me that her father told her that she 'lowered her standards' when he learned of our dating.
At the time when I met her I was very tolerant of other peoples beliefs and respected their beliefs. I think I was a bit too tolerant in this regard. Not to say that we should not be tolerant of other people's beliefs, but if your beliefs are important to you then you should be careful to choose a mate who has similar beliefs to yours. In a way, I did not know what to expect, I kind of thought of JW's as Christians that just did not believe in Hell or celebrate Christmas. The fact that I had a JW friend who celebrated 'Friendship Day' on Dec 25 and my wife celebrated Christmas too made me think that JW's could be open to practice it in some form.
My wife and I grew up in a small city and moved out together to a much larger city due to job prospects. In the smaller city, I would think the witnesses were more strict and had a greater tendency to gossip. The elder at my wife's current KH is a very nice man and so is his wife. When my wife and I now talk about what a JW is suppose to be like, I just say, "I don't know what a JW is suppose to be like. I only know what a Christian is suppose to be like. But the elder of your KH seems to be a good one and your mom has good christian traits as well." When my wife says that JW are suppose to be good christians, I say, "Well they have good goals then."
My mother-in-law was a witness when she met her husband, he wasn't one at the time and she would not get involved with him unless he studied and become a witness. He did so and they have been married now for over 25 years. He is not as 'spiritual' as she is but he did manage to climb to the ranks of MS and was offered the title of elder which he turned down for now. I think for someone who really wants to be in a witness family, then being as uncompromising as she helped when selecting her mate. I guess we could all learn from that example regardless of our faith. She was true to herself and true about herself to her potential husband.
|Butterflyleia85, your mother seemed to really love your step-father. She tried to compromise. That doesn't seem to be the case with me or Gary Neal, or most witnesses.|
I really need to state for the record that in spite of the differences my wife and I have, we are still very compatible in many ways. I think if we could remove the religion from our lives, we'd almost be the perfect pair.
At times she is very uncompromising and very stubborn and it irks me to no end. But at times, I can be a complete butt-hole as well. But I still find myself a bit dismayed when she asserts the Society's position concerning issues that can be really dangerous (blood). I try to present a balanced view over this, even stating how the Society is on point about the risks of disease and the 'overuse' of blood similar to how some doctors over-perscribe anti-biotics. I just try also to point out how it can be deadly to deny blood in extreme cases. Plus I point out their hypocritical stance on allowing blood fractions but not allowing witnesses to donate.
I suspect that she will eventually run into her own cognitive dissonance but I hope it does not take a drastic situation for her to to have to confront this. May the Lord help us both find the truth about Him and His purpose for us.
Thanks for the replies everyone. My wife just had her IUD removed so we may be blessed with another child in the near future.