This feels like I'm in the middle of a Kafka story.
Fer god's sake folks, I stopped REALLY acting like an elder at least 2 years ago.
I have been a "flaky" elder ever since.
Did any of you who are saying I'm looking for advice on what to do on a JC even bother to read my thread?
I said I vowed to myself 2 years ago not to sit on any more JCs and I HAVE KEPT THAT PROMISE.
(insert cricket noises here)
I was just playing a little "what if" game on a thread here on JWN, not actually messing with my fellow elders or other people's real lives like I did when I was a true believer.
Thank you Black Sheep for your observations.
I looked to the experiences of others when I first started reading on here and learned a lot.
The poster "Amazing" aka Jim Whitney gave excellent advice on how he got his family to think from the inside while still serving as an elder.
I think this is a no-brainer. If you really want to give your immediate family the best shot at waking up and smelling reality, you've got to stay in and play it day by day until they're finally awakened. Now, here's where I part ways with OTWO. He says step aside as an elder very quickly and do a fade. You're powerful stand will wake up your family.
Maybe. It's all a crap shoot.
I say, keep your "privileges" and work on them from a position of "spiritual strength". When you 1. step aside and 2. become inactive your credibility goes straight in the crapper for anyone still gripped by the clutches of the cult mentality.
Is it hypocritical?
Yes. In a sense. I've got the mantle of elderhood while actually believing that much of JWism is total BS.
But since I believe it's a mind-control cult, why should I care about being "true" to their rules?
I care about my family and I'm going to do my best to get them out.
So far, I'm doing pretty well. My oldest child is 99.5% (the highest percentage I've posted to date) free of JWism. It looked like he/she was going to take the plunge for social reasons a few months ago, but now it looks like that's probably not going to happen. Sweet!
My wife is making slow but sure progress. She's a born-in like me and I'm giving her as much time as she needs.
All my kids are allowed to participate in extra-curricular activities. They have "worldly" friends. They know my wife and I think much of JWism is BS.
It's a work in progress and I think we're getting there.
Cast all the stones you want. I only share my experiences here so others can weight it out in their minds before pursuing their own plan.